Destress the Damsel


Which nobody can deny?
Which nobody can deny?

Oh, let’s not start that up again! If you read last month’s article, you’ll know why the traditional song, “For He’s a Jolly Good Fellow”, has been looping in my mind for many days. In my March 2026 blog, Is He a Jolly Good Fellow?, we considered 8 traits that single ladies often desire in a man, followed by 8 traits that single ladies ought to require in a man. This month’s article is a direct follow-up to those thoughts, so I strongly encourage you to read Part I here before moving into Part II. I’ll wait!

Did you read Part I? You’re kinda the best. Now we can dive into Part II: Am I a Jolly Good Female?

Selecting a husband is the single most important choice any damsel will ever make…second only to selecting a Lord and Savior (hint: choose Jesus). As we discussed last month, in order to select the right husband, a woman must ask herself, Is He a Jolly Good Fellow? She must ask herself honestly: What manner of man is he? Today we’re going to amp up our game and turn the question back on ourselves. In order to become the right wife, a woman must ask herself, Am I a Jolly Good Female? She must ask herself honestly: What manner of woman am I? Listen to this childhood story shared by Dixie Andelin Forsyth, President of Fascinating Womanhood™, and daughter of FW founder, Helen Andelin. In the story, Dixie recalls an exchange she had with her mother when around the age of 14:

❝I said, ‘I know I’m really young, and I know I’m not that worldly wise. How will I know…a good guy…the right guy for me? How can I find the right guy? I don’t think I’ll be smart enough by then.’ I remember she gave me this pad of paper…and she said, ‘Write down everything you want in a man…’ And so I did and that was kind of fun, because she said, ‘…anything you want’, and of course, being 14, I probably put some really stupid stuff on there, too. So I put everything down and then she took the page and tore the paper off, turned it upside down, and said, ‘Now write on the back everything that guy you just described is going to be looking for, deserve, or want in a woman. What will he be looking for?’ And that took a little longer. She said, ‘Tape the paper to your headboard with this part that has what you need to do, what he’s going to want, and work on that.’ I remember sewing was on there; I remember cooking was on there; I remember those things. I thought, ‘He’s going to want someone who cooks – this great guy, this amazing guy who every woman wants – is going to want this.’❞

– excerpt transcribed from YouTube video, “8 Tips for Single Women | | Preparing Yourself for Marriage by Cultivating Your Femininity“, by Fascinating Womanhood – Dixie Andelin Forsyth

Helen Andelin proved herself to be a shrewd mother when she exhorted young Dixie to work on herself while waiting to meet the man of her dreams. (Fun fact: Dixie has been married to the love of her life, Dr. Robert Forsyth, for 50+ years and counting, and the couple is blessed with 7 children. Though I don’t agree with Bob and Dixie’s every position, I do find their teachings on marriage to be exceedingly useful. They have a good grasp on masculinity and femininity in the marital relationship.)

Single friends: allow me to play the role of Helen, as you play the role of Dixie. I may not have a pad of paper to give you, but consider this your digital copy. Last month, we “filled out” one side of the paper and made a list detailing The Man I Desire and The Man I Require. This month, we’re going to “turn the paper over”, as it were, and make a new list. It’s time to answer the million-dollar question:


In Is He a Jolly Good Fellow? we talked about desiring a man who is attractive, and requiring a man who is (more importantly) conscientious. What kind of a woman will such a man desire and require? I reckon he will be looking for the kind of woman who beautifies herself. He will want that “jolly good female” who makes a concerted effort to look her best. One who is elegant and refined, and never frumpy and dumpy. One who puts together lovely outfits, and doesn’t just throw on any ratty old clothes. One who styles her hair, and doesn’t merely run a brush through it and call it good. One who nourishes her skin and nails, and doesn’t simply neglect them (whether she wears makeup and/or manicures her nails will come down to her man’s individual preference). One who practices ladylike posture, and doesn’t slouch. One who maintains her physique, and doesn’t let her body go.

What kind of beloved is your beloved, O most beautiful among women? – Song of Solomon 5:9a

In Is He a Jolly Good Fellow? we talked about desiring a man who is charming, and requiring a man who is (more importantly) kind. What kind of a woman will such a man desire and require? I reckon he will be looking for the kind of woman who shows care and compassion to others. He will want that “jolly good female” who is nurturing towards all life forms: from people to pets to plants. One who isn’t self-centered, but is selfless and sacrificial. One who isn’t loud and brash, but possesses a gentle and quiet spirit. One who doesn’t attempt to be the center of attention, but pours attention upon the lowly. One who isn’t quarrelsome, but is gentle and peaceable. One who doesn’t “call it like she sees it”, but seasons her words with salt in an effort to edify the hearers. One who doesn’t focus on what others are not doing, but focuses on what she can do to make the world a better place.

If she has shown hospitality to strangers, if she has washed the saints’ feet, if she has assisted those in distress, and if she has devoted herself to every good work. – 1 Timothy 5:10b

In Is He a Jolly Good Fellow? we talked about desiring a man who is humorous, and requiring a man who is (more importantly) lighthearted. What kind of a woman will such a man desire and require? I reckon he will be looking for the kind of woman who keeps on the sunny side of life. He will want that “jolly good female” who is given to optimism, even in the midst of hardship. One who counts her blessings, and not her burdens. One who is content, and not a chronic complainer. One who is smiling and cheerful, rather than frowning and miserable. One who boosts morale by pointing out the silver lining, rather than bringing everyone’s mood down by pointing out the cloud. One who can laugh at her mistakes, and doesn’t throw her hands up in defeat at the first sign of failure. One who will stick by her husband’s side through thick and thin, and not say “adios” when things get rough.

Antithesis: It is better to live in a desert land, than with a contentious and vexing woman. – Proverbs 21:19

In Is He a Jolly Good Fellow? we talked about desiring a man who is intelligent, and requiring a man who is (more importantly) studious. What kind of a woman will such a man desire and require? I reckon he will be looking for the kind of woman who has a good head on her shoulders. He will want that “jolly good female” who balances her feminine emotions with knowledge, understanding, wisdom, and good old-fashioned common sense. One who has a strong sense of discernment, and doesn’t believe everything she hears. One who makes informed decisions, and doesn’t always follow the status quo. One who reads and researches, and doesn’t think books are a waste of paper. One who observes and listens, and doesn’t talk incessantly. One who is perpetually growing and evolving, and not stagnating at the same maturity level she was 10 years ago, 5 years ago, or even 1 year ago. One who is a doer, and not just a hearer.

Antithesis: weak women weighed down with sins, led on by various impulses, always learning and never able to come to the knowledge of the truth. – 2 Timothy 3:6b-7

In Is He a Jolly Good Fellow? we talked about desiring a man who is muscular, and requiring a man who is (more importantly) protective. What kind of a woman will such a man desire and require? I reckon he will be looking for the kind of woman who leans into his masculinity. He will want that “jolly good female” who isn’t afraid to be vulnerable with a man. One who doesn’t buy into egalitarianism, but believes in complementarianism. One who doesn’t regard masculinity as toxic, but regards it as intoxicating. One who isn’t interested in competing with her man, but in completing him. One who doesn’t scoff at men when they open doors for her or offer to relieve her of heavy loads, but is grateful for their chivalry. One who doesn’t hatefully proclaim, “I don’t need a man”, but lovingly proclaims, “I need my man”. One who doesn’t shun help, but invites it, receives it, and praises it.

An excellent wife is the crown of her husband, but she who shames him is as rottenness in his bones. – Proverbs 12:4

In Is He a Jolly Good Fellow? we talked about desiring a man who is powerful, and requiring a man who is (more importantly) significant. What kind of a woman will such a man desire and require? I reckon he will be looking for the kind of woman who is a positive influence. He will want that “jolly good female” who models Biblical womanhood in a world that’s largely forgotten what femininity is. One who is reverent in her behavior and teaches what is good, rather than being a malicious gossip or enslaved to much wine. (Titus 2:3). One who encourages young women to love their husbands, to love their children, to be sensible, pure, workers at home, kind, and subject to their own husbands, rather than letting the word of God be dishonored (Titus 2:4-5). One who shapes the opinions and behaviors of others by gentle persuasion, rather than micromanagement and manipulation tactics.

All my people in the city know that you are a woman of excellence. – Ruth 3:11b

In Is He a Jolly Good Fellow? we talked about desiring a man who is romantic, and requiring a man who is (more importantly) devoted. What kind of a woman will such a man desire and require? I reckon he will be looking for the kind of woman who is faithful, loyal, and true. He will want that “jolly good female” who is, in the immortal words of Grease’s Sandra Dee, “hopelessly devoted to [him]”. One who isn’t lukewarm in her affections, but is crazy about her man and always thinking on ways to please him. One who doesn’t allow petty grievances to drive a wedge between the two of them, but is tenderhearted and longsuffering. One who doesn’t flirt with all the guys, but is discreet and shamefaced in the presence of men. One who doesn’t give her body outside of marriage, but safeguards her purity. One who doesn’t consider divorce to be an option (barring extenuating circumstances), but upholds the marriage covenant as sacrosanct.

But to the married I give instructions, not I, but the Lord, that the wife should not leave her husband. – 1 Corinthians 7:10

In Is He a Jolly Good Fellow? we talked about desiring a man who is wealthy, and requiring a man who is (more importantly) industrious. What kind of a woman will such a man desire and require? I reckon he will be looking for the kind of woman who is able to stretch a penny. One who doesn’t buy impulsively, but thinks a purchase through before adding it to her cart (whether digitally or physically). One who isn’t concerned with keeping up with the Joneses, but is content with what she has. One who isn’t preoccupied with labels, but gravitates toward the cheaper option when there isn’t a noticeable difference in quality. One who doesn’t require everything she owns to be brand new, but is willing to shop secondhand for most items (I personally draw the line at thrifted underwear, socks, etc.). One who isn’t comfortable with outstanding debt, but pays bills in a timely manner. One who doesn’t spend with reckless abandon, but sticks to a budget.

A prudent wife is from the Lord. – Proverbs 14:b

In conclusion…

As you wait for your Mr. Right to come along, it will serve you well to work on becoming his Mrs. Right. Preparing for marriage certainly involves asking oneself, Is He a Jolly Good Fellow? But it also involves asking oneself, Am I a Jolly Good Female? Both sides of the equation are of vital importance. I challenge all the single ladies out there to follow the example of 14 year old Dixie, and “fill out both sides of the paper”, so to speak.

It’s crucial that one side asks, “Is he conscientious, kind, lighthearted, studious, protective, significant, devoted, industrious, and a disciple of Jesus Christ?”

But remember, it’s just as crucial that the other side asks, “Am I the becoming the woman that a conscientious, kind, lighthearted, studious, protective, significant, devoted, industrious, disciple of Jesus Christ will desire and require?”

❝So many times we think, ‘What do I want? I want this and this and this.’ and we don’t think, ‘What do they want?‘ Well, you’ve gotta match. You’ve gotta fit.❞

– excerpt transcribed from YouTube video, “8 Tips for Single Women | | Preparing Yourself for Marriage by Cultivating Your Femininity“, by Fascinating Womanhood – Dixie Andelin Forsyth

For God’s glory,
Mrs. Dustin Bolks

Chaste Bolks is a church of Christ preacher’s wife, and the home educating mother of two children. She and her family currently reside in Northwest Iowa.


For he’s a jolly good fellow,
For he’s a jolly good fellow,
For he’s a jolly good fellow,
Which nobody can deny!

Which nobody can deny! Which nobody can deny! For he’s a jolly good fellow, for he’s a jolly good fellow, for he’s a jolly good feeelllooowww — and so the traditional song goes. And goes. And goes. Like Shari Lewis’ infamous earworm, “The Song That Never Ends”, “For He’s a Jolly Good Fellow” can loop in the mind for days. My apologies to you…and to all poor souls in hearing distance of you.

“For He’s a Jolly Good Fellow” has been sung at many a birthday, wedding, anniversary, promotion, retirement, and sporting event over the last two centuries. It is meant to exonerate a man who is, well…a jolly good fellow. In a few simple words, it conveys the message, “we all agree that this guy is pretty swell”. Whether the song is sung in honor of a dedicated husband, a skillful employee, or an accomplished athlete, it is assumed that the “jolly good fellow” is a man of some dignity and stature.

For some time, I have wished to advise the single ladies in my audience on what qualities to look for in a potential husband. I have been reluctant to write on this topic, for my idea of a good husband and your idea of a good husband may be vastly different. For example, I am attracted to a man who is grave and contemplative. Many women are attracted to a man who is goofy and carefree. Neither preference is “right or wrong”, so to speak, but merely a matter of individual opinion. My darling husband, whom I regard as the most fascinating creature on Planet Earth, may be regarded by some women as dull and uninteresting. And there are some men out there – wonderful, Christian men, mind you – whom I would never desire to be married to, simply based on my personal taste. And herein lies my conundrum: since everyone’s “type” is different, how can I even begin to tell you what to look for? Certainly, there are qualities all Christian women would call “non-negotiable”. I want a godly man. I want a good man. I want a real man. But these qualities are so vague that they are impractical and therefore unhelpful. What does a godly man look like? What does a good man look like? What does a real man look like? I am writing you today to help you answer these vital questions.

In Is He a Jolly Good Fellow? we are going to be contrasting two kinds of men. The first is The Man I Desire. This guy looks like Mr. Right at face value, as he shares many traits with men of high caliber. The second is The Man I Require. This guy is it. The real deal. Anyone who’s not him? Dismissed. Bye. Don’t let the door hit you on the way out. If you are single as a pringle and looking for a “Jolly Good Fellow” to call you his own, you surely don’t want to miss this month’s article on picking a husband.

Without further ado, let’s spend some time sizing up…


As I mentioned in today’s intro, women’s tastes in men vary greatly. There is no one-size-fits-all guy we can point to as THE perfect catch. I can guarantee that as soon as you think you’ve identified the world’s #1 coolest cat, sure enough there will be some gal who says, “eh. He’s not my cup of tea”. Because desirability is so subjective – beauty is in the eye of the beholder – I have compiled a list of 8 traits that I believe to be (generally speaking) universally desired in men. Most of us would say:

  1. The Man I Desire is attractive. Some women like tall men, some women like short men. Some like black hair, some like brown hair, some like red hair, some like blonde hair. Some like their man with facial hair, some like their man to be clean-shaven. Some like brown eyes, some like green eyes, some like blue eyes. We can’t all agree on what an “attractive” man is, but this we can all agree on: every woman desires to have a man who is strikingly handsome in her eyes.

  2. The Man I Desire is charming. Classic Disney movies made sure we all understood this basic truth about men: if he isn’t charming, then he’s certainly no prince. Even more compelling than looks to most women, is a man’s ability to sweet-talk and perform gallant tasks. Charismatic men who cozy up to women with compliments and chivalrous gestures are more charming than their reserved counterparts. (Yet beware, for charm has mated many an abuser to his victim.)

  3. The Man I Desire is humorous. They say “girls just wanna have fun”, and never is this more true than when it comes to having fun with the man of her dreams. When a guy makes a girl laugh, he places her into her natural feminine headspace – she is jaunty, breezy, carefree. This has a powerful drawing effect, for a woman is at her happiest when she is in “girl mode”. The man who can put her there might as well wear a sign saying, “marry me, and feel this way always.”

  4. The Man I Desire is intelligent. Whether he is spouting off facts about world wars, doling out anecdotal advice, crunching numbers for a corporate board, or explaining how to change a flat tire, a man with some know-how will usually succeed in impressing the ladies. No one wants a birdbrained husband. While a girl can often get away with being a bit of an airhead – appearing innocent and vulnerable – this isn’t the case with guys. They come across as imbecilic and vapid.

  5. The Man I Desire is muscular. I have yet to hear a woman gushing over a man’s weak, scrawny, gangly physique. “Oh, your arms are so skinny and limp! Your thin, spindly fingers are just right for caressing me! How I love to lay my head upon your narrow, skeletal chest!” Sounds absurd, does it not? We like our men solid, sturdy, and strapping. Strong arms, big hands, a firm chest…these traits point to manliness. They say, “I can make mincemeat of anyone who messes with my girl.“

  6. The Man I Desire is powerful. The guy who can build a business from the ground up…the guy who can spring an idea and get others to jump on the bandwagon…the guy who speaks and the room goes quiet…the guy who is “large and in charge”…this guy will garner our attention. Powerful men are more than mere dreamers. They are the ones who plan, and the ones who can. They are capable, competent, and (over)qualified. And let’s be honest…we all want one.

  7. The Man I Desire is romantic. Now, allow me to qualify this statement. Flowers are not every girl’s weakness. Some girls would rather enjoy a night in than a night out. I have even heard tell of girls that shun chocolate (oh, what a bleak life this third category must lead!) What is perceived as “romantic” by one girl may be shot down and scoffed at by another. Whatever our particular “brand” of romance, we all yearn for a man who treats us as if we’re the only girl in the world.

  8. The Man I Desire is wealthy. A man doesn’t necessarily have to be the next John D. Rockefeller, Andrew Carnegie, Bill Gates, or Elon Musk to capture a woman’s interest. But to act as if money is of no consequence is to ignore the elephant in the room. Couples can’t “live on love”; a man must be able to provide for his family. It’s a fact of life: financial stability and familial security typically go hand-in-hand. A woman wants to know that her man can “bring home the bacon”.

Now, suppose you meet a man who is attractive, charming, humorous, intelligent, muscular, powerful, romantic, and wealthy. Eight out of eight – a perfect score! You have found “the one”, right? Perhaps. But then again, I could name a lot of cads who fit the description of attractive, charming, humorous, intelligent, muscular, powerful, romantic, and wealthy. While these traits are desirable in men, and can be used as guidelines of what to look for in a potential husband, they are not in and of themselves conclusive evidence of the godly man, the good man, the real man. He has to have something more.

Is He A Jolly Good Fellow? In order to find out, I must look beyond The Man I Desire to see if he’s…


In 1997, the popular country singer, Shania Twain, released a song entitled, “That Don’t Impress Me Much”. In the song, she touched on three out of the eight aspects of male desirability. Over three comical verses, Shania sang about being pursued by the intelligent rocket scientist, the attractive Brad Pitt, and the wealthy guy with the cool car, but how she was consistently unimpressed by their advances. The chorus showed her resolve to look past what she desired and onto what she required:

That don’t impress me much
So you got the [brains…looks…moves], but have you got the touch?
Now, don’t get me wrong, yeah, I think you’re alright
But that won’t keep me warm in the middle of the night
That don’t impress me much

Physical affection was the #1 priority on Shania’s list. No matter how intelligent, attractive, or wealthy her suitors were, when she sensed that they were not touchy and warm husband material, she showed them the door. As Christian women, we prioritize the godly man, the good man, the real man. Guys who don’t fit that description don’t impress us much. So, let’s modify our 8 traits of desirability:

  1. The Man I Require may or may not be attractive, but he MUST be conscientious. Subconsciously, we desire an attractive man because of what we believe his attractiveness represents. When we meet an attractive man, we perceive that he is polished, disciplined, and takes care of himself. But the truth is, a person can be naturally good looking, and in reality possess none of these virtues. Look beyond the semblance of a man. Does he practice good hygiene, maintain a trim physique, dress sharply, walk erectly, etc? Even if he is not a conventionally sexy man, does he make an effort to present himself at his best? Such effort often points to good character. On the other hand, a man may have inherited attractive features, but if he has body odor, dresses slovenly, is out of shape, slumps his shoulders, etc., then he is not a conscientious person.

    You blind Pharisee, first clean the inside of the cup and of the dish, so that the outside of it may become clean also. – Matthew 23:26

  2. The Man I Require may or may not be charming, but he MUST be kind. Subconsciously, we desire a charming man because of what we believe his charm represents. When we meet a charming man, we perceive that he is caring, tenderhearted, and loves others selflessly. But the truth is, a person can be naturally charismatic, and in reality possess none of these virtues. Look beyond the flattery of a man. Do his actions align with his flowery words? Is he one that caters to others even when no one is watching? Does he give generously, with no strings attached? Even if he is not suave or a real smooth-talker, can you identify him as a servant? God exalts such as these. But if a man only goes out of his way for people when he has a captive audience, or when he believes he can derive some personal benefit out of it, then he is not a kind person.

    For such men are slaves, not of our Lord Christ but of their own appetites; and by their smooth and flattering speech they deceive the hearts of the unsuspecting. – Romans 16:18

  3. The Man I Require may or may not be humorous, but he MUST be lighthearted. Subconsciously, we desire a humorous man because of what we believe his humor represents. When we meet a humorous man, we perceive that he is merry, jovial, and has a positive outlook on life. But the truth is, a person can be naturally amusing, and in reality possess none of these virtues. Look beyond the comedic value of a man. What is his response to suffering? Can he greet the day with a smile, even when things aren’t going his way? Does he know how to lift up your spirit in times of hardship? Lots of guys are a real “barrel of laughs” when life is smooth sailing. But the ones who know how to face adversity with relentless optimism? Now those are few and far between. If a man is long on laughs but short on smiles, then he is not a lighthearted person.

    Even in laughter the heart may be in pain, and the end of joy may be grief. – Proverbs 14:13

  4. The Man I Require may or may not be intelligent, but he MUST be studious. Subconsciously, we desire an intelligent man because of what we believe his intelligence represents. When we meet an intelligent man, we perceive that he is educated, well-read, and values academic excellence. But the truth is, a person can be naturally clever, and in reality possess none of these virtues. Look beyond the wit of a man. Is he an ardent truth seeker? Does he have a love for reading? Does he challenge himself by revisiting his positions from time to time? Are the men he keeps company with of a scholarly nature? A man who places an emphasis on learning is one who will continue to grow the greater, while the man who thinks he has “arrived” will decline intellectually over time. If a man remains content with the knowledge he has, then he is not a studious person.

    Give instruction to a wise man and he will be still wiser, teach a righteous man and he will increase his learning. – Proverbs 9:9

  5. The Man I Require may or may not be muscular, but he MUST be protective. Subconsciously, we desire a muscular man because of what we believe his muscularity represents. When we meet a muscular man, we perceive that he is valiant, heroic, and an advocate for women and children. But the truth is, a person can be naturally toned, and in reality possess none of these virtues. Look beyond the brawn of a man. Does he step in to relieve you of heavy burdens? Is he moved when he finds out that a vulnerable person has been treated cruelly? Will he speak out against injustice and do everything in his power to make it stop? Are you confident that he would lay down his life for your family if that is what the situation demanded? True masculinity is sacrificial. If a man is just another gym rat with a six-pack, then he is not a protective person.

    When a strong man, fully armed, guards his own homestead, his possessions are undisturbed. – Luke 11:21

  6. The Man I Require may or may not be powerful, but he MUST be significant. Subconsciously, we desire a powerful man because of what we believe his power represents. When we meet a powerful man, we perceive that he is dynamic, weighty, and respected in the community. But the truth is, a person can be naturally domineering, and in reality possess none of these virtues. Look beyond the station of a man. Do people genuinely care what he has to say (or are they merely afraid of crossing him)? Does he accept counsel? Is he willing to admit when he’s wrong? Are his plans laid with caution, taking into consideration the best outcome for everyone involved? Power can either be used as a tool, or a weapon. Remember this: a dictator controls, but a leader is in control. If a man bullies his way to the top, then he is not a significant person.

    But the noble man devises noble plans; and by noble plans he stands. – Isaiah 32:8

  7. The Man I Require may or may not be romantic, but he MUST be devoted. Subconsciously, we desire a romantic man because of what we believe his romance represents. When we meet a romantic man, we perceive that he is constant, faithful, and only has eyes for one woman. But the truth is, a person can be naturally amorous, and in reality possess none of these virtues. Look beyond the passion of a man. Does he refrain from gawking at and flirting with other women? Is he honest with you regarding his whereabouts and how he spends his time? Can you trust him to steer clear of compromising situations? Do you know in your heart of hearts that he truly loves you? A dependable man is worth more than all the flowers and chocolates in the world. If a man tries to buy your love rather than buoy it, then he is not a devoted person.

    So husbands ought also to love their own wives as their own bodies. He who loves his own wife loves himself. – Ephesians 5:28

  8. The Man I Require may or may not be wealthy, but he MUST be industrious. Subconsciously, we desire a wealthy man because of what we believe his wealth represents. When we meet a wealthy man, we perceive that he is diligent, hard-working, and driven to succeed. But the truth is, a person can be naturally affluent, and in reality possess none of these virtues. Look beyond the capital of a man. Does he have a strong work ethic? Is he willing to do whatever it takes to make ends meet? Are his resources used wisely and modestly? A bulging pocketbook does not say much about a man’s mettle. Riches can be acquired by inheritance, gambling, fraud, theft, etc. The poor man who works honestly for his bread is far richer than the freeloader who is well-to-do. If a man only breaks a sweat opening his wallet, then he is not an industrious person.

    But if anyone does not provide for his own, and especially for those of his household, he has denied the faith, and is worse than an unbeliever. – 1 Timothy 5:8

Suppose you meet a man who is conscientious, kind, lighthearted, studious, protective, significant, devoted, and industrious. Is He a Jolly Good Fellow? Girl, I hope I hear wedding bells ringing in your future…because it sounds to me like you’ve found yourself a godly man, a good man, a real man.

In conclusion…

Is he “the one”? He may be the man you desire, but is he the man you require?

Is He a Jolly Good Fellow? If the answer is “yes”, then hold onto that man for dear life! If the answer is “no”, then you’d better adopt the attitude of Emperor Kuzco in Disney’s The Emperor’s New Groove:

Oh, and by the way, you’re fired.

…

You’re being let go. Your department’s being downsized. You’re part of an outplacement. We’re going in a different direction. We’re not picking up your option. Take your pick. I got more.

For God’s glory,
Mrs. Dustin Bolks

Chaste Bolks is a church of Christ preacher’s wife, and the home educating mother of two children. She and her family currently reside in Northwest Iowa.