She walks—the lady of my delight—
A shepherdess of sheep.
Her flocks are thoughts. She keeps them white;
She guards them from the steep.
She feeds them on the fragrant height,
And folds them in for sleep.


She roams maternal hills and bright,
Dark valleys safe and deep.
Her dreams are innocent at night;
The chastest stars may peep.
She walks—the lady of my delight—
A shepherdess of sheep.


She holds her little thoughts in sight,
Though gay they run and leap.
She is so circumspect and right;
She has her soul to keep.
She walks—the lady of my delight—
A shepherdess of sheep.


– “The Lady of the Lambs” by Alice Meynell

Alice Meynell paints a lovely word picture of a pure mind. The “shepherdess” in her poem symbolizes the Christian woman, while the “sheep” represent the woman’s thoughts. Mrs. Meynell points out that thoughts, like sheep, have a tendency to run and leap. As “shepherdesses”, we are responsible for herding our “sheep” in the right direction. We all aspire to do this, but sometimes our shepherding resembles less that of Alice Meynell’s stalwart Shepherdess of Sheep and more that of Mother Goose’s hapless Little Bo-Peep, who “lost her sheep and [couldn’t] tell where to find them“. You know how the poem goes: after Little Bo-Peep’s sheep went missing, she was advised to “leave them alone, and they’ll come home, bringing their tails behind them.” Of course, we all know this lax advice wasn’t acceptable to Miss Bo-Peep; no, she determined rather to go find her sheep and bring them back home where they belonged. She had already made the mistake of losing them in the first place, and she wasn’t going to make matters worse by further neglecting her duties. Just like Little Bo-Peep, we sometimes let our “sheep”, A.K.A. our thoughts, get away from us. If we continue to leave those “sheep” unattended, they will inevitably become food for wolves. And a good shepherdess can’t allow that to happen!

In this month’s article, we will reveal three well-known phrases about “thought” that every shepherdess ought to memorize in order to ensure the safety of her sheepfold. This three-part strategy teaches us to reject poor thinking habits and to continually renew our minds with truth until we just Come to Think of It! Shepherdess, are you willing to learn how to divide the “wolves” from the “sheep” (i.e. divide unhealthy and healthy thoughts)? Are you prepared to strike down any “intruders” (i.e. strike down intrusive thoughts)? Are you ready to purify your “flock” (i.e. purify your thinking)?

If the answer to these questions is “yes”, then you need to start the Come To Think of It process by saying this first important phrase to yourself:



…we are taking every thought captive to the obedience of Christ. – 2 Corinthians 10:5b

According to the Laboratory of Neuro Imaging at the University of Southern California, the average brain generates 48.6 thoughts per minute. If you are awake for 16 hours, that’s nearly 47,000 thoughts per day. That’s a lot of “sheep” running around in the pasture of one’s mind! When dealing with numbers that large, there are bound to be some “wolves in sheep’s clothing” that try to slip through the cracks. This is why Paul believed in “taking every thought captive“. At face value, “every thought” might seem like overkill. Yet when we consider how much havoc just one wolf can wreak upon a flock, we begin to see the wisdom of Paul’s message. We have so many “sheep” to worry about, that it would be foolhardy not to have a tight security system in place.

Will a good shepherdess allow just any “sheep” to saunter into her sheepfold? No! If ever she notices a sinister figure creeping in, she will cry out: “Wait a minute! Hold that ‘sheep’! That’s a wolf!” By the same token, will a good Christian woman allow just any thought to take up residence in her mind? No! If she notices a dark thought creeping in, she will cry out within herself: “Wait a minute! Hold That Thought! That’s an unhealthy thinking pattern!” Being able to identify an unhealthy thought is the first step towards cleaning up one’s mind. As they say, knowledge is half the battle! This is why being in God’s word daily is so vital to our Christian walk. The more scripture that we hide in our hearts, the more easily we will recognize when the enemy attempts to infiltrate our psyche. Anytime an unhealthy thought tries to creep in, we can use the security system of our mind (the B-I-B-L-E) to alert of an intruder. Thus alerted, we can take it captive: absolutely forbidding it to enter in, dwell among, and corrupt our “sheep”.

Don’t ever allow your conscience to become “seared…as with a branding iron“. (1 Timothy 4:2) Don’t ever allow your security system to go down!

• If you are tempted to think hateful and bitter thoughts about someone, say to yourself: “Hold That Thought!” That’s a wolf creeping in.

• If you are tempted to think that sinful behavior is not that big of a deal, say to yourself: “Hold That Thought!” That’s a wolf creeping in.

• If you are tempted to think impure thoughts outside of your covenant, say to yourself: “Hold That Thought!” That’s a wolf creeping in.

• If you are tempted to think that no one cares whether you live or die, say to yourself: “Hold That Thought!” That’s a wolf creeping in.

• If you are tempted to think that God has forgotten and forsaken you, say to yourself: “Hold That Thought!” That’s a wolf creeping in.

Where there are sheep, the wolves are never far away.❞ – Plautus

Once you learn to “Hold That Thought“, you need to continue the Come to Think of It process by saying this second important phrase to yourself:



We are destroying speculations and every lofty thing raised up against the knowledge of God… – 2 Corinthians 10:5a

Any shepherdess will tell you that a once captive wolf, treated to the “catch and release” method, will keep coming back to the sheepfold again and again. The insatiable appetite of a wolf will always ensure that the predator returns for its prey. I think you know where I’m going with this: it’s not enough to merely catch the wolf. See, in the very same passage where Paul speaks of “taking every thought captive“, he also speaks of “destroying speculations and every lofty thing” (emphasis added). Destroy: to take down, pull down, or break down. To cause something to end or no longer exist. Yes, we must go full “Gaston” on our unhealthy thoughts and “kill the beast“. (Fans of Disney’s Beauty and the Beast will get the reference)

Will a good shepherdess be content to give a captured wolf a smack on the rump and gently admonish him to “adopt an herbivorous diet moving forward“? No! She will totally remove him from her environs, if not from the very earth itself. By the same token, will a good Christian woman be content to shoo away bad thoughts and mentally proclaim, “I don’t want to think about that right now“? No! She will confront her dark thoughts for what they are, and utterly annihilate them. It’s not enough to “banish the thought”, you have to “Perish The Thought“. For just like hungry wolves, if bad thoughts are only “caught and released”, they will return in full force and relentlessly try to break down our defenses until our minds are given over to depravity…until our thinking is so completely deluded that we can no longer tell which way is up. Whenever an intrusive thought pops into your head, it is imperative that you meet it head on, do battle, and strike it down. If you ignore a “wolf”, he’ll come back tomorrow – bringing the whole pack with him.

• If you have identified hateful and bitter thoughts about someone, say to yourself: “Perish The Thought!” Don’t suffer that wolf to live.

• If you have identified apathetic thoughts about sinful behavior, say to yourself: “Perish The Thought!” Don’t suffer that wolf to live.

• If you have identified impure thoughts outside of your covenant, say to yourself: “Perish The Thought!” Don’t suffer that wolf to live.

• If you have identified insecure thoughts about others’ view of you, say to yourself: “Perish The Thought!” Don’t suffer that wolf to live.

• If you have identified doubts about God’s promises and provision, say to yourself: “Perish The Thought!” Don’t suffer that wolf to live.

When it comes to a showdown between the shepherd and the wolf, the shepherd will always prevail. The wolf’s speed, brute strength and cunning may give him a brief advantage, but in the end, the shepherd’s genius and organization will triumph every time. Be therefore wary of the shepherd, more than of the wolf.❞ – Jesaja Senones

Once you learn to “Perish The Thought“, you need to continue the Come to Think of It process by saying this third (and final) important phrase to yourself:



…be transformed by the renewing of your mind… – Romans 12:2b

Guarding her sheepfold against predators is one crucial role of a shepherdess. Yet her obligations don’t end there. She must do more than just keep her sheep from being gobbled up. She must nurture her flock; she must lead her sheep, and she must feed her sheep. The same concept is true in regard to our thoughts. We must take unhealthy thoughts captive, yes. We must destroy unhealthy thoughts, yes. But let us not forget that we have a responsibility to nurture our healthy thoughts, too. The same Paul who addressed bad thoughts in 2 Corinthians 10:5, addressed good thoughts in Romans 12:2. Don’t let the familiarity of the passage downplay its powerful message. Renewing the mind is “magical” – it completely transforms us!

Will a good shepherdess lead her sheep to green pastures, let them feast upon good grass, and guide them safely back to the sheepfold? You bet she will! Will a good Christian woman lead her thoughts to high places, let them feast upon positivity, and guide them safely until bedtime? You bet she will! Don’t make the mistake of being so focused on capturing and killing the “wolves” that you forget to tend to the “sheep” in your care. A shepherdess without any sheep doesn’t serve much of a purpose, does she? Likewise, a Christian woman, though she banish and perish her bad thoughts, will be empty indeed if she does not replace these with good thoughts. (If you don’t know where to begin, we are told exactly what kind of thoughts we ought to “dwell on” in Philippians 4:8.) If you have been thinking negatively for a long time, you may feel at a loss for what to think about. But this is like a shepherdess pining for a wolf’s fellowship. Quite a silly way to feel, when she has so many dear sheep to keep her company.

• If you have struck down hateful and bitter thoughts about someone, replace them with thoughts of love and forgiveness. “On Second Thought…” Feed your sheep.

• If you have struck down apathetic thoughts about sinful behavior, replace them with thoughts of godly sorrow over your sin. “On Second Thought…” Feed your sheep.

• If you have struck down impure thoughts outside of your covenant, replace them with thoughts of sensual love for your husband. “On Second Thought…” Feed your sheep.

• If you have struck down insecure thoughts about others’ view of you, replace them with thoughts of past kindnesses on your behalf. “On Second Thought…” Feed your sheep.

• If you have struck down doubts about God’s promises and provision, replace them with thoughts of how far He’s brought you thus far. “On Second Thought…” Feed your sheep.

Sheep are creatures of habit; once they know a route, they will follow it until the day they die.❞ – Peter F. Hamilton


In conclusion…

What man among you, if he has a hundred sheep and has lost one of them, does not leave the ninety-nine in the open pasture, and go after the one which is lost, until he finds it? And when he has found it, he lays it on his shoulders, rejoicing. – Luke 15:4-5

In context, this passage is referring to a lost Christian being restored to Christ. But for the sake of our lesson, consider how the same mentality can be applied to our thoughts. When one of our “sheep” gets away from us, we can take one of two attitudes: 1.) We can be apathetic and call it a loss, or 2.) we can take Jesus’ approach and go in search of our lost sheep. Clearly, we shepherdesses ought to adopt the attitude of The Good Shepherd. Every thought matters, just as every sheep matters. When we find our sheep going astray, we must reinforce these three phrases within our minds:

Hold That Thought” – take each one captive, to identify whether it is a “wolf” or a “sheep”.
Perish The Thought” – destroy any “wolves”, lest they return another day to consume the flock.
On Second Thought” – guide your “sheep” with tender loving care, and bring them safely home to rest.

Will you walk as “the lady of [God’s] delight—a shepherdess of sheep“? Like Little-Bo-Peep, your good efforts will not disappoint in the end…

She heaved a sigh and wiped her eye,
And over the hillocks she raced;
And tried what she could, as a shepherdess should,
That each tail be properly placed.
– Mother Goose

For God’s glory,
Mrs. Dustin Bolks


Chaste Bolks is a church of Christ preacher’s wife, and the home educating mother of two children. She and her family currently reside in Northwest Iowa.


God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
The courage to change the things I can,
And the wisdom to know the difference.
Reinhold Niebuhr

Commonly referred to as “The Serenity Prayer”, these famous words have been in circulation for nearly 100 years. When Reinhold Niebuhr composed the prayer in the early 1930’s, he could have had no idea that these three lines would come to be printed on countless posters, pillows, and purses, let alone become a mantra for members of Alcoholics Anonymous and the Young Women’s Christian Association (YWCA). His words have resonated with many hearts over the last century, inspiring resolve and renewal. I don’t see references to The Serenity Prayer as often as I did when I was a child; believe me, this prayer used to be everywhere. Though Mr. Niebuhr’s words seem to be fading into relative obscurity, I still find his message to be as meaningful as I ever did (if not more so, after coming into contact with “the world forces of this darkness” — Ephesians 6:12)

In this month’s article, The Lady of Laissez-Faire, we’re bringing The Serenity Prayer back! If you are unfamiliar with the term, “laissez-faire”, it is a French phrase that means “let it be” or “leave it alone”. It is primarily used in Social Studies to describe an economic system in which transactions between private individuals are free from any form of economic interventionism (i.e. when you shop at a garage sale, or sell an item to a friend, or make use of the local farmer’s market – free from government involvement – this is thanks to the capitalist principle of laissez-faire.) A free market economy, such as the one we find in the USA, will always utilize this approach to some degree. Laissez-faire is a free market economy in its purest form; it is the philosophy of live and let live. And now that we have gotten our Economics lesson in for the day, we come to the point. “Live and let live” is a significant mindset to adopt, both economically and emotionally. If one aspires to become The Lady of Laissez-Faire, she must determine to focus only on what is in her own power, and let the rest go. Sounds a lot like the message of The Serenity Prayer, doesn’t it? Be bold enough to change what you can, make peace with what you can’t, and avoid mixing up the two. Today, using The Serenity Prayer to guide us, we will ponder the threefold journey one must make before she can transform into The Lady of Laissez-Faire.

On the first leg of this journey, she will be called…



“God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change…”

What are some of the “things I cannot change“?

First of all, I cannot change other people. Sure, I can influence them. I can inspire them. I can coax them. I can compel them. I can teach them. I can train them. But at the end of the day, I cannot change them. Ask any parent of a wicked and rebellious child, and this is what you’ll learn: you cannot change another person, for they can only change themselves. Those who invest all their time and energy into trying to change others are chronically unhappy, because their efforts are fruitless. Serenity is found when we accept that others have the free will to choose their own way…for better or for worse, for good or for bad, for salvation or for damnation.

Second of all, I cannot change my lot. Sure, I can ask. I can seek. I can knock. But I cannot break down the door. I can’t force my circumstances to change (unless I am the ongoing cause of my own misfortune). If I have prayed (this is asking), and I have researched solutions (this is seeking), and I have put a plan into action (this is knocking), yet I still find myself unable to crawl out from under the crushing weight of my trial? I know it’s time to let go and let God. I played my last card, now I need to sit back and let Him make the next move. Serenity is found when we accept that waiting on the Lord is quite characteristic of the Christian condition.

Third of all, I cannot change the world. Sure, I can use my voice. I can stand for truth. I can join a cause. I can volunteer my time. I can perhaps even make a difference in my sphere of influence. But I cannot totally expel the darkness, I can only help keep it at bay. The fact is that our current world system is run by Satan, or “the prince of the power of the air, of the spirit that is now working in the sons of disobedience“. (Ephesians 2:2) Until Christ’s second coming, there will always be some evil man with an evil plan wreaking havoc on society. Serenity is found when we accept that Satan is going to continue to celebrate many of his victories…for now.

Lady of Acceptance, you must come to terms with the fact that you can’t change other people, you can’t change your lot, and you can’t change the world. May God grant you the serenity to accept these things.

Shall we indeed accept good from God and not accept adversity? – Job 2:10b

On the second leg of this journey, she will be called…



“…The courage to change the things I can…”

What are some of the “things I can change“?

First of all, I can change my person. I may not have the ability to change other people, but there is one unique person I do have the ability to change, and that is me. Every day I have the choice to level up and become a better version of myself. I can polish my appearance. I can learn new skills. I can educate myself. I can control my spending. I can monitor my nutrition. I can take unhealthy thoughts captive. I can improve my social interactions. I can deepen my relationship with God. I can be a trailblazer, and do all of the things I wish others would do! Courage is stepping out of our comfort zones and embracing our new and improved selves.

Second of all, I can change my outlook. I may not be able to change my lot in life, but I can change my outlook on my circumstances. You know what they say: pessimists see the glass as half empty, but the optimist sees it as half full. Both observations are true, but the one I choose to dwell on will either hamper my happiness, or grow my gratitude. Being a “glass-half-full” kinda girl doesn’t mean pretending that my trials don’t exist, but it does mean that I choose to focus on everything that is going right in my life, rather than on everything that is going wrong. Courage is bearing up under sorrows and pressing on in spite of suffering.

Third of all, I can change my destination. I may not be capable of stopping the old world from going to hell in a hand basket, but I am capable of ensuring I will be a resident of the new world that extends beyond this life. I am capable of believing on the Lord Jesus Christ, and confessing His name before men. I am capable of recognizing where my sin leads, and repenting before it’s too late. I am capable of being baptized (immersed in water) for the remission of my sins. I am capable of walking in newness of life and allowing God to work in and through me. Courage is living as a pilgrim on foreign soil, as we patiently await the return of the King.

Lady of Courage, you must remember that you have the power to change your person, to change your outlook, and to change your destination. May God grant you the courage to change these things.

For God has not given us a spirit of timidity, but of power and love and discipline. – 2 Timothy 1:7

On the third and final leg of this journey, she will be called…



“…And the wisdom to know the difference.

What is “the difference“…

…between changing other people vs. changing my person? A woman who purposes to change other people is all about badgering, while a woman who purposes to change her person is all about bettering. The former points her finger. The latter checks her mirror. The former criticizes others from a spirit of pride. The latter critiques herself from a spirit of humility. The former makes demands of others. The latter takes command of her own spirit. The former languishes. The latter flourishes. Don’t be the sort of woman who makes people her projects. If you must work on someone, work on yourself! You’ll quickly find this to be a full-time job.

…between changing my lot vs. changing my outlook? A woman who purposes to change her lot tests the Lord, while a woman who purposes to change her outlook trusts the Lord. The former asks, “why me?”, as she counts her burdens. The latter asks, “why me?”, as she counts her blessings. The former throws her hands up in despair. The latter folds her hands up in prayer. The former dwells on the negative. The latter dwells on the positive. The former believes God is unfair. The latter believes God is unfailing. Don’t be the sort of woman who allows her present view to frame her point of view. Guard your mind. Stay the course. This too shall pass.

…between changing the world vs. changing my destination? A woman who purposes to change the world is fearful, while a woman who purposes to change her destination is faithful. The former frets over the state of affairs. The latter is busy with her own affairs. The former says, “the sky is falling“. The latter says, “the Son is coming“. The former is anxious about the bad news. The latter is excited about the Good News. The former attempts to conquer the battlefront. The latter attempts to secure the home front. Don’t be the sort of woman who takes the weight of the world on her shoulders. Eyes on the prize. A new world order is coming.

Lady of Wisdom, you must use careful discernment to differentiate between what is in your power, and what is in the power of others. May God grant you the wisdom to know the difference between these things.

But if any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives to all men generously and without reproach, and it will be given to him. – James 1:5


In conclusion…

She is called Lady of Acceptance. She is called Lady of Courage. She is called Lady of Wisdom.

She is The Lady of Laissez-Faire.

She accepts that she cannot change other people, while garnering the courage to change her person. She accepts that she cannot change her lot, while garnering the courage to change her outlook. She accepts that she cannot change the world, while garnering the courage to change her destination. Her wisdom helps her to distinguish between what she can and cannot change, and this gives her the serenity to walk through life in a world that is often cold and cruel to its inhabitants. May The Lady of Laissez-Faire be you; may she be me.

Years after Reinhold Niebuhr penned The Serenity Prayer, an anonymous writer added this lovely ending, with which we will close:

Living one day at a time,
Enjoying one moment at a time,
Accepting hardship as a pathway to peace,
Taking, as He did,
This sinful world as it is,
Not as I would have it,
Trusting that He will make all things right,
If I surrender to His will,
That I may be reasonably happy in this life,
And supremely happy with Him forever in the next.

Amen.

For God’s glory,
Mrs. Dustin Bolks


Chaste Bolks is a church of Christ preacher’s wife, and the home educating mother of two children. She and her family currently reside in Northwest Iowa.