Oh, I wouldn’t climb this tree
If a Pooh flew like a bee.
But I wouldn’t be a bear then,
So I guess I wouldn’t care then!

Bears love honey
And I’m a Pooh bear,
So I do care,
So I’ll climb there.

– Excerpt from “Rumbly in My Tumbly” song, Disney’s The Many Adventures of Winnie the Pooh (1977)

Everyone who has read or watched the charming children’s series, “Winnie the Pooh” is probably starkly aware of this fact: Pooh Bears LOVE honey. You likely also know that Tiggers love bouncing, Rabbits love gardening, Owls love reminiscing, and on it goes. Each character in Winnie the Pooh has an affinity for that “one thing” that lights up their world. When others try to suppress that “one thing” they love, the results are glum. We all can probably recollect gloomy images of: a dejected Tigger denied of his right to bounce…an exasperated Rabbit peering around at his ruined garden…a clueless Owl gazing upon his friends who have fallen asleep to his prattle…and most of all, a sad and hungry Pooh Bear deprived of his honey pot. From childhood, we sympathize with these characters because we know how important that “one thing” is to them, and to see them lost without it is piteous.

Did you ever stop to ask yourself, what is that “one thing” that lights up your husband’s world? If you know me, you probably already sense where I’m going with this. And if you’re being honest with yourself, you also know exactly what that “one thing” is…

I’ll put it bluntly: sex is to a man what honey is to a Pooh Bear. Indeed, making love to his wife is honey for a husband’s heart. When women deny their husbands of that “one thing”, the results are glum; but when women recognize their husband’s affinity for sex and embrace it, the results are glorious. Consider this Proverb:

A sated man loathes honey, but to a famished man any bitter thing is sweet. – Proverbs 27:7

Layman’s terms: a man can be so full that he turns down dessert, or he can be so hungry that he eats out of a garbage can. To relate this to sex: you can either bless your husband with so much lovemaking that he says, “enough, woman! I’ve had my fill!”, or you can leave him starving and susceptible to temptation and sin. I don’t know about you, but I prefer a sated man over a famished one any day. Keeping your husband satisfied will, in turn, satisfy you. It’s a win-win situation.

Today, I want to share three facts about honey with you. May they serve to give you a refreshing perspective on the place your “honey” holds in your husband’s heart. Honey Fact #1:

Winnie-the-Pooh sat down at the foot of the tree, put his head between his paws and began to think.
First of all he said to himself: “That buzzing-noise means something. You don’t get a buzzing-noise like that, just buzzing and buzzing, without its meaning something. If there’s a buzzing-noise, somebody’s making a buzzing-noise, and the only reason for making a buzzing-noise that I know of is because you’re a bee.”
Then he thought another long time, and said: “And the only reason for being a bee that I know of is making honey.”
And then he got up, and said: “And the only reason for making honey is so as I can eat it.” So he began to climb the tree.

A.A. Milne, Winnie-the-Pooh (1926)

Do you wish to be “Queen Bee” in your man’s life? You know the saying: you catch more flies with honey than you do with vinegar! You can catch a Pooh Bear all the more…but most importantly, you can catch your husband’s heart. Sex is not only the main motivation for a man to pursue a woman in the first place, but it is also the main motivation that keeps him interested and coming back to his woman, his wife.

Worldly women know how to snag a man:

For the lips of an adulteress drip honeyProverbs 5:3a

But two can play at that game. Wise women know how to keep a man:

Your lips, my bride, drip honey… Song of Solomon 4:11a

“Christian wife” and “prude” are not synonymous. Rather, a faithful helpmeet is skilled in the art of enticing her husband. She makes it her mission to “buzz” (attract), “make honey” (interact), and let her man “eat honey” (enact).

Here are some practical ways to entice your husband from morning to night:

Offer yourself to him first thing in the morning. “Show appreciation” for his male anatomy when he gets out of the shower. Dress to impress. Flash him. Talk about your desire for him. Give naughty touches. “Force” him to take time for mid-day quickies. Send him naughty texts. Brag about your girl parts. Kiss him passionately. Go to bed naked with him. Caress his nude body. Offer yourself to him before bed. Sleep in his embrace. Keep the clothes OFF! Wake up, repeat.

Enticing your husband isn’t a once-off occasion when you’re feeling frisky…no ma’am. It’s a lifestyle. Sex is a daily need for your husband that you get the privilege to fulfill. Give up the honey…for it entices.

Honey Fact # 2:

It’s a very funny thought that, if Bears were Bees,
They’d build their nests at the bottom of trees.
And that being so (if the Bees were Bears),
We shouldn’t have to climb up all these stairs.

A.A. Milne, Winnie-the-Pooh (1926)

Honey has a high calorie content…about 30% higher than that of sugar. Honey is energizing; it is enabling. It enables one to carry out their day with vigor and pep in their step. Pooh Bear notes how much easier his life would be if honey was more easily accessible…and wouldn’t the life of a husband be easier also?

A man who is sexually deprived is apt to be angry, bitter, and overtly focused on his cravings for sex. Like a starving man who can only think of one thing: “FOOD!”, a man who is starving sexually can only think of one thing: “SEX!”. His need for sexual release consumes him and makes him a good-for-nothing with a one-tract-mind.

On the other hand, a man who is sexually satisfied is apt to be happy, carefree, and have a productive work life. When his need for sex is well taken care of, it gets him out of his body and into his mind. It frees him up to be the man he wants to be, and the man you want him to be…noble, hard-working, joyous. If you keep your man “running on empty” it will only serve to benefit both of you.

Lest you find daily sex a daunting task, note that a “small smackerel of honey” goes a long way:

Have you found honey? Eat only what you need… – Proverbs 25:16

Faithful sex is a matter of regularity, not remarkability. The sex act in itself (if given passionately as a lover, not prudishly as a martyr) is remarkable to a man. Consistency is key. Give up the honey…for it enables.

Honey Fact #3:

“When you wake up in the morning, Pooh,” said Piglet at last, “What’s the first thing you say to yourself?”
“What’s for breakfast?” said Pooh. “What do you say, Piglet?”
“I say, I wonder what’s going to happen exciting today?” said Piglet.
Pooh nodded thoughtfully. “It’s the same thing,” he said.

A.A. Milne, Winnie-the-Pooh (1926)

Honey is one food that is considered to have an “eternal shelf life”. In other words, it never spoils. They say that (free of contamination), honey is perfectly edible after thousands of years. Of course, honey never spoils in Pooh Bear’s heart, either. Whether you’re reading the 1926 series, watching the 1977 movie, or bingeing on one of the many Winnie the Pooh television shows that have come out over the last few decades, one thing remains the same: Pooh Bear will always be crazy about his honey. So too, will a man always be crazy about his woman’s honey. It’s part of a male’s genetic makeup, designed by God. The love of honey endures.

Many women find their husband’s love of sex repulsive, even perverse. After all, they want to feel loved and cherished, not fondled! These women shoot themselves in the foot, for they don’t realize that their husband’s physical advances are his masculine way of loving and cherishing them. There’s a reason sex is referred to as “making love”: it literally makes a man love his wife. A man is never so tender, a woman never so doted upon, as when they come together in this way. If more wives would only surrender to the (God-ordained) sexual desire of husbands, what fulfilling marriages they would have.

Happy is the man who can say:

I have eaten my honeycomb and my honey… – from Song of Solomon 5:1

Such a man feels like king of the world, and in turn, treats his lady like royalty. (Certainly in almost every area of life, there are outliers….I’m speaking not of the sinister, villainous husband, but of the “Average Joe”) Take it from a girl who started from humble beginnings, and got her fairy-tale ending…the peasant girl who married a king. Though I began my marriage with little more in common with my husband than the fact that we both loved the Lord, we have since become the most intimate of friends and devoted of lovers. I owe this in great part to the 10+ years of daily sex that has forged us as one in soma, soul, and spirit. Truly for us, “the end of a matter is better than its beginning” (Ecclesiastes 7:8a). I hope the same for your marriage.

If you yearn for your husband’s love for you to last forever, I can not impress strongly enough to you that honey never spoils. Honey both snags a man, and it keeps a man; honey keeps him wild for his woman. Give up the honey…for it endures.

In conclusion…

Are you giving out honey for a husband’s heart? If not…why not? Your honey is enticing, enabling, and enduring. It is that “one thing” that your husband craves above all else. Don’t you think it’s about time to give your Hunny some honey? His heart will sing:

If everything is honey
And I am what I eat
I must be made of honey
And life is very sweet.

– Excerpt from “Everything is Honey” song, Disney’s Winnie the Pooh (2011)

For God’s glory,
Mrs. Dustin Bolks

Chaste Bolks is a church of Christ preacher’s wife, and the home educating mother of two children. She and her family currently reside in Northwest Iowa.