Fear not the whirlwind will carry you hence,
Nor wait for its onslaught in breathless suspense,
Nor shrink from the blight of the terrible hail,
But pass through the edge to the heart of the gale,
For there is a shelter, sunlighted and warm,
And Faith sees her God through the eye of the storm.

The passionate tempest with rush and wild roar
And threatenings of evil may beat on the shore,
The waves may be mountains, the fields battle plains,
And the earth be immersed in a deluge of rains,
Yet, the soul, stayed on God, may sing bravely its psalm,
For the heart of the storm is the center of calm.

Let hope be not quenched in the blackness of night,
Though the cyclone a while may have blotted the light,
For behind the great darkness the stars ever shine,
And the light of God’s heavens, His love will make thine,
Let no gloom dim your eyes, but uplift them on high
To the face of your God and the blue of His sky.

The storm is your shelter from danger and sin,
And God Himself takes you for safety within;
The tempest with Him passes into deep calm,
And the roar of the winds is the sounds of a psalm.
Be glad and serene when the tempest clouds form;
God smiles on His child in the eye of the storm.


You’re probably familiar with the term “eye of the storm”. Sometimes, in the middle of a fierce and powerful tropical cyclone, a natural phenomenon occurs in which calm weather is found in the middle of the storm…this tranquil region is called the “eye”.

Many of us will never encounter a tropical cyclone (especially those of us who live in the heart of the American Midwest), but we will encounter many “storms” in life just the same. Of course I am not referring to natural disasters, but emotional disasters…not catastrophic to the planet, but nonetheless quite catastrophic for its inhabitants.

There are myriads of emotional storms that can hit in life: dissolved friendships, distant marriages, deteriorating careers, and the list goes on. Today, I want to focus on one specific type of storm that is familiar to parents the world over: the storm of teenage emotions. Ask any parent of teenagers, and they will likely tell you that they have been through their share of storms while navigating through the teen years with their child. There’s a reason there are so many stereotypes about the “moody teenager”…because adolescents have a whole lot of emotions, and not a lot of practice managing them. They want parents less than ever, but in many ways they need them more than ever. The teenage years can be a tough season for the whole family, but they can be lived through gracefully with a little prep and a lot of patience.

Are you a mother of teens, or will be in the future? Let me give you some perspective about the storms that your teenager will inevitably send your way, and help you to be the” eye of the storm” that your son or daughter needs you to be. In order to be a safe space for your kiddo (and keep your own sanity) there are three things you need to understand about storms. The first thing you need to understand about storms is that:

Out of the south comes the storm, and out of the north the cold. – Job 37:9

Storms occur in various locations all across the globe. When a storm arises, it is never isolated to one individual. Rather, its effects are usually felt by most or all people in that locale…a collective disaster.

When your teen’s emotions are whipping up a storm, know that it is not personal:

Once you take an objective look at your teen and stop making their storm about you, your eyes will be open to their needs…and allow you to get to the root of the problem.

Remember: your teen’s stormy behavior is not personal. Be the eye of the storm, the calm in the chaos.

The second thing you need to understand about storms is that:

Do you not fear me? declares the Lord. Do you not tremble in my presence? For I have placed the sand as a boundary for the sea, an eternal decree, so it cannot cross over it. Though the waves toss, yet they cannot prevail; though they roar, yet they cannot cross over it. – Jeremiah 5:22

Storms have boundaries. No storm wreaks its havoc upon the whole earth (with the notable exception of the flood in Noah’s day, of course). Travel far enough, and a storm will make way for sunny skies.

When your teen’s emotions are whipping up a storm, know that it is not permissible:

Once you realize that you are capable of both handling and containing your teen’s storms, your eyes will be open to expect and accept the storm…and meet it head on without surprise but with a game plan.

Remember: your teen’s stormy behavior is not permissible. Be the eye of the storm, the calm in the chaos.

The third thing you need to understand about storms is that:

O afflicted one, storm-tossed, and not comforted, behold, I will set your stones in antimony, and your foundations I will lay in sapphires. Moreover, I will make your battlements of rubies, and your gates of crystal, and your entire wall of precious stones. All your sons will be taught of the Lord; and the well-being of your sons will be great. – Isaiah 54:11-13

Storms are temporary. No doubt they can cause a lot of damage, but they never last forever. Eventually the rain stops pouring, the wind stops blowing, and all is still.

When your teen’s emotions are whipping up a storm, know that it is not perpetual:

Once you realize that the rough spot you are going through with your teen is only a short season, your eyes will be open to the finish line…and allow you to run the remainder of the course with diligence.

Remember: your teen’s stormy behavior is not perpetual. Be the eye of the storm, the calm in the chaos.

In conclusion…

A question every mother of teens ought to ask herself is this: “Will I be picked up and carried off by my teenager’s emotional torrents? Or will I be the eye of the storm that my son/daughter needs?

We all know what our answer should be, but are we up to the challenge? In order to be the eye of the storm in your teenager’s life, you must understand and remember three things about storms:

Be the eye of your teen’s storm. Be the calm in the chaos. The power of Christ in you will enable you to say to your teenager’s storm, “peace, be still”.

And the rain fell, and the floods came, and the winds blew and slammed against that house; and yet it did not fall, for it had been founded on the rock. – Matthew 7:25

For God’s glory,
Mrs. Dustin Bolks

Chaste Bolks is a church of Christ preacher’s wife, and the home educating mother of two children. She and her family currently reside in Northwest Iowa.

My glass shall not persuade me I am old,
So long as youth and thou are of one date;
But when in thee time’s furrows I behold,
Then look I death my days should expiate.
For all that beauty that doth cover thee,
Is but the seemly raiment of my heart,
Which in thy breast doth live, as thine in me:
How can I then be elder than thou art?
O! therefore love, be of thyself so wary
As I, not for myself, but for thee will;
Bearing thy heart, which I will keep so chary
As tender nurse her babe from faring ill.
Presume not on thy heart when mine is slain,
Thou gav’st me thine not to give back again.

– “Sonnet 22”, William Shakespeare

This year (2022) on August 17, marks 10 years of being in covenant with the one person who I find myself perfectly fitted to in soma, soul, and spirit – my man. Our wedding anniversary gives me the perfect “excuse” to talk about my favorite topic (marriage), and more specifically, My•Delightful May•December.

May-De•cem•ber /mā-də’sembər/ (adj.)
Used to describe a romantic relationship in which one person is much younger than the other. The age of the younger person is likened to May, which marks the beginning of Spring, while the age of the older person is likened to December, which comes late in the year and marks the start of Winter.

source: https://idioms.thefreedictionary.com/May-December

I consider it a privilege to be married to a man who is, in every way, my superior…including in age. Being married to an older man has grown me in ways that (I strongly suspect) I would not have grown in had I married one closer to me in years. My older man has brought me from valleys to mountaintops, simply by observing him, learning from him, and being challenged daily by his invaluable mentorship.

Today’s topic is primarily for the single ladies, though I hope it may prove to be an interesting read for all. For those of you looking for a husband, perhaps a bit of anecdotal evidence from my life may broaden your horizons and encourage you to look beyond your peers for the man who will head your home. Perhaps my experience will propel you to seek your man through the lens of hypergamy (the art of marrying up) which may indeed be the most rewarding choice you ever make, like My•Delightful May•December was, and is, for me.

[Disclaimer: I am strongly persuaded that all women ought to be shrewd in their choice of husband and “marry up”. A wise woman will seek a husband who is superior to her spiritually, intellectually, emotionally, physically, etc. It is naturally easier to serve under a superior man than it is to serve under a dud.

Now, are all older men superior? Are all younger men duds? Of course neither extreme is true. One would be foolish to marry a dud based on the fact that he is older, just as one would be foolish to pass up a younger man that is her superior.

There is absolute truth (with no exception to the rule), and then there is general wisdom (which can have exception). I intend to share the latter—a bit of general wisdom—with ladies in search of a husband. I believe that in many cases, marrying an older man will serve a young woman well…but not always. Not every May•December marriage is desirable. Not every marriage between peers (or of older women with younger men) is undesirable. Let my words not offend those unhappily married to older men or happily married to younger men. Take what is applicable to you, and discard the rest.]

Now without further ado, I wish to share with you three reasons why marrying my December has been most delightful…

A woman can take care of the family. It takes a man to provide structure, to provide stability.

– Tom DeLay

Are you in search of a husband? I implore you to find a man who is stable.

Older men tend to have more stability than their younger counterparts, because they’ve had more time to put down their roots…

If you desire a man who is financially able to provide for his wife and children, a man who knows what he wants out of life and how to get it, a man who is firmly established…don’t overlook a December. An older man just may fit the bill and offer you the utmost stability. I thank God that my December is stable.

But if anyone does not provide for his own, and especially for those of his household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever. – 1 Timothy 5:8

Do you see a man skilled in his work? He will stand before kings; he will not stand before obscure men. – Proverbs 22:29

Affliction comes to us, not to make us sad but sober; not to make us sorry but wise.

– H.G. Wells

Are you in search of a husband? I implore you to find a man who is sober.

Older men tend to have more sobriety than their younger counterparts, because they’ve had more time to live through character-building trials…

If you desire a man who takes life seriously, a man who is a fount of sage wisdom and life-lessons, a man who has the maturity and horse-power to take his wife and children in hand…don’t overlook a December. An older man just may fit the bill and offer you the utmost sobriety. I thank God that my December is sober.

Older men are to be temperate, dignified, sensible, sound in faith, in love, in perseverance. – Titus 2:2

The glory of young men is their strength, and the honor of old men is their gray hair. – Proverbs 20:29

I should say sincerity, a deep, great, genuine sincerity, is the first characteristic of all men in any way heroic.

Thomas Carlyle, On Heroes, Hero-Worship and the Heroic in History (1841)

Are you in search of a husband? I implore you to find a man who is sincere.

Older men tend to have more sincerity than their younger counterparts, because they’ve had more time to determine what is truly important in life…

If you desire a man who rejects worldliness, a man who will look to you for all his sexual needs, a man who says what he means and means what he says…don’t overlook a December. An older man just may fit the bill and offer you the utmost sincerity. I thank God that my December is sincere.

Many a man proclaims his own loyalty, but who can find a trustworthy man? – Proverbs 20:6

He who walks righteously and speaks with sincerity…he will dwell on the heights, his refuge will be the impregnable rock; his bread will be given him, his water will be sure. Your eyes will see the King in his beauty; they will behold a far-distant land. – Isaiah 33:15a,16-17

In conclusion…

If you, eligible lady, are looking for a man armed with stability, sobriety, and sincerity, I highly recommend finding yourself an older man…a delightful December.

If you, declared lady, are wondering where you fit into this article, I will give you the same advice I give all wives. Love your man (Titus 2:4). Subject yourself to him (Ephesians 5:22; Colossians 3:18; Titus 2:5). Respect him (Ephesians 5:33b). Be a crown to him (Proverbs 12:4). Do him good all the days of your life (Proverbs 31:12). Submit to him (1 Peter 3:1,5). Obey him (1 Peter 3:6). Whether he is older, younger, or the same age as you, God’s perfect design for wives is universal – be a help meet for your man! Should your man not be stable, sober, and sincere? Work on winning him without a word: with your chaste and respectful behavior, and with the imperishable quality of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is precious in the sight of God (1 Peter 3:1-4). Cultivate this biblical womanliness, and over time you just may see a delightful December appear before your very eyes. (But if not? Do what is right just the same…this is the Christian way. Pray for God’s hand with your marriage – He is our very present help in times of trouble.)

Back to the single gals…I strongly encourage you to marry up. You will be doing yourself a great service if you find a high-caliber man, making your burden as a help meet so very light. Is marrying an older man the best way for you to marry up? Maybe…it certainly was for me. I would be remiss not to recommend to you the unique joy of a May•December marriage. Like Abraham & Sarah, and Boaz & Ruth before me, I have found great success in My•Delightful May•December. Perhaps you will find the same.

May you be blessed of the Lord, my daughter. You have shown your last kindness to be better than the first by not going after young men, whether poor or rich. – Ruth 3:10b

For God’s glory,
Mrs. Dustin Bolks

Chaste Bolks is a church of Christ preacher’s wife, and the home educating mother of two children. She and her family currently reside in Northwest Iowa.