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12.31.2015 by hpcs // Leave a Comment

“…God hath chosen the foolish things of the world to confound the wise; and God hath chosen the weak things of the world to confound the things which are mighty; And base things of the world, and things which are despised, hath God chosen, yea, and things which are not, to bring to nought things that are: That no flesh should glory in his presence” – 1 Corinthians 1:27-29What do the elderly, the mentally handicapped, and children have in common?

These individuals are a walking example of exaggerated sin!

Now before you waltz out of here thinking I am a heartless person with a very bad punchline, let’s think about this, because it’s no joke.

As a blanket statement; kids, elderly people, and those with a mental disability are all linked in one crucial way. The minds of these individuals are not at the same level as the average adult. Unfortunately, this often brings about mockery, belittlement, or the cold shoulder from unspiritual people with a more “average” functioning mind. Even the most spiritual of people sometimes find themselves uncomfortable in the presence of people that don’t fit the “normal” bill according to society’s standards.

Sisters, instead of avoiding these people, we ought to be learning from them. How so? By realizing what their innocent yet awkward state can teach us about the sin in our own lives. We need to let ourselves be excavated by the exaggerated. What do I mean by that?

Ex-ca-vate: verb
To remove earth carefully and systematically from an area in order to find buried remains. (synonyms: unearth, uncover, reveal)

I propose that the infirmities of others can and should serve as a method of teaching us the truth of our own inner man – causing us to dig up and expose the “dirt” beneath the surface. This is a painful yet necessary process towards building a Christ-like existence.
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– When we consider the elderly who can not remember, we need to ask ourselves…

Do we remember?

It’s common to feel sad, lonely, or even frustrated in the face of Dementia. We know that generally as people age, they begin to forget things until the point they eventually forget the ones they love most. Though aged forgetfulness is innocent in nature, it can give us a good example of what sin does to people. If we drift away from the Lord, it may start slowly. It might even be undetectable at first to the world around us, but the sickness will slowly infect our minds until we have nearly forgotten all the truth that we once held dear. Natural dementia is innocent – spiritual dementia is not. When we come in contact with the elderly, we ought to learn to remember.

“Remember this, and shew yourselves men: bring it again to mind, O ye transgressors. Remember the former things of old: for I am God, and there is none else; I am God, and there is none like me” – Isaiah 46:8-9
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-When we consider the mentally disabled who are unaware of their actions, we need to ask ourselves…

Are we aware of our actions?

As a young child, there were a few times that I saw severely handicapped people while shopping or eating at a restaurant. I remember the feeling of confusion I had when I saw these men or women acting inappropriately and abnormally; perhaps violently thrashing themselves or others, speaking incoherently, or crying and yelling for seemingly no reason. For many, the reaction to such a sight is to turn from it in embarrassment. Is this the right response? Of course not. These poor individuals are helpless to prevent the outbursts, and we should show them compassion. However; when it comes to ourselves, we ought to look within in disgust when we act inappropriately and abnormally in the sight of our God! If it is so easy to see the mortifying actions of the mentally disabled, the innocent – how can we be blind to our own crazed behavior, when we ought to know perfectly well what we are doing? When we come in contact with the disabled, we ought to become sensitive and aware of our behavioral state.

“He layeth up sound wisdom for the righteous: he is a buckler to them that walk uprightly.” – Proverbs 2:7
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-When we consider children, who keep making the same mistakes over and over again…

Do we make the same mistakes over and over again?

Sometimes parenting is exhausting. It seems that the phrase “If I’ve told you once I’ve told you a million times” just might be an understatement. When it comes to the simplest things, children need to be taught. Then they need to be taught again. And again. And again, and again, and again! It can feel like the teaching never ends. Then when we feel like they’ve finally got a handle on our teaching, they forget, and the process starts all over again. Does this resemble our spiritual life? Do we keep falling over and over again and never grow or improve? Children we will give grace to, for eventually they grow up and wise up…but let’s be cautious that we as christian adults do not keep falling back to our sin, because again – we know better. This holds us accountable. When we come in contact with children, we ought to be reminded to learn from our mistakes.

“That we henceforth be no more children, tossed to and fro, and carried about with every wind of doctrine, by the sleight of men, and cunning craftiness, whereby they lie in wait to deceive; But speaking the truth in love, may grow up into him in all things, which is the head, even Christ” – Ephesians 4:14-15
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All of the people I have mentioned are an exaggerated example from God of what we could be without Him. I would be remiss if I failed to mention that the maladies of the elderly, handicapped, and children are of a physical nature, and without condemnation. Even so, these innocents can give us an excellent picture of what might be going on inside us of a spiritual nature. It’s as if these were speaking the exact same thing to us as our Lord when He said, “this is my body which is given for you”  – their conditions are on this earth for us to learn from as I stated above. Let us be christian women who remember, who are aware of our actions, and who grow and improve instead of make the same mistakes over and over again. Let us thank God for the strength of mind we have – that He has made us perfectly capable of choosing Him and living a faithful life according to His purpose.

God bless, and take a chill pill!
Mrs. Dustin Bolks

Mrs. Dustin Bolks is a church of Christ preacher’s wife, and the home educating mother of two children. She and her family currently reside in Northwest Iowa.

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11.30.2015 by hpcs // Leave a Comment

“And let us not be weary in well doing: for in due season we shall reap, if we faint not.” Galatians 6:9——————————————————————————“weary…”

“I think I can, I think I can, I think I can…” Like “The Little Engine That Could” , this is the mantra of every christian mother, is it not? We keep trudging up hill, and while some days are smoother than others, sometimes we feel fortunate to have gotten through another 24 hours simply having kept everyone from going insane. By the end of a full day spent keeping the kids in line, it is often us who feel we are flying off the handle. It is at these times that “I think I can” starts to turn into a wearied “I think I can not“…

No one ever said motherhood was always a walk in the park. Cute babies are somewhere along the line exchanged for miniature people with adult sized attitudes, and we are left wondering what we got ourselves into.

“reap…”

But wait – a light at the end of the tunnel – what’s that you say about reaping, Lord? We’re all in! Surely all our hard work will eventually pay off?

Ah, but wait, the responsibility shifts back to us. “If we …”

“faint not”

Each one of us has a natural bend towards selfishness. Let’s face it, serving others is downright wearisome…to the flesh, that is. However, with God’s help and a lot of practice on our part, we can have a changed mindset towards service, and our spirits will only gain all the more energy! When we look outside of ourselves and outside of our children, we can see the bigger picture – our service is for God! (Colossians 3:23)

If we think we can’t muster up one more ounce of grace towards that belligerent child, we are too stressed to break up another quarrel, too tired to pick up the mess; if we are just about ready to throw in the towel…remember that it’s not about them! Our service to our family is a direct reflection upon our service to God. If we “can’t” serve them, what we’re ultimately saying is that we can’t serve Him.
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I know it’s hard to look beyond what’s happening right now. I know it seems that keeping order to a christian home should not be this hard. I know that sometimes it might feel like you aren’t good enough, but I will tell you this: None of that matters, because “in due season we will reap, if we faint not”. The struggle will be worth it; we know this is true, because it is straight from God’s word! The important thing is that we don’t give up.

Remember that Jesus came to earth as a servant. Who are we to display a selfish attitude towards our children when He was (and is) everything but selfish toward us?

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I encourage you to take time daily to invest in God’s word. Instead of letting our circumstances control us, we ought to be well prepared each day for the hard work that is parenting! The devil would like nothing more than to see our homes fall apart as we go into battle un-armed and ignorant. Let’s not give him the delight that he seeks, but rather please our Heavenly Father by being a mother filled with grace, fortitude, and nobility. With God, we don’t think we can…we know we can.

God bless, and take a chill pill!
Mrs. Dustin Bolks

Mrs. Dustin Bolks is a church of Christ preacher’s wife, and the home educating mother of two children. She and her family currently reside in Northwest Iowa.

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10.31.2015 by hpcs // Leave a Comment

Hello, Chicas!Today we are going to be discussing words, or to be more precise: bad words.“Hold on, ‘bad words’? This isn’t the first grade! I think I can choose my own vernacular, thank you very much”

Okay, before you hand in the towel, hear me out…because I believe we need to place more importance on words than we do. I firmly believe the Bible is quite clear on this subject, and purging the venom from our vernacular is worth more than a fleeting thought.

– The first thing we need to consider before we proceed, is that words in and of themselves are not evil. Sounds and syllables can not be evil any more than an inanimate object can be evil. However; sounds, syllables, and inanimate objects can all be used for evil by humans.

As christians under liberty, we are not given specific commandment as to which words are to be restricted in our speech – but – as children born of the spirit, we ought to have wise discernment of our own attitudes and why we say every word we say. What is the source of our words? If we are speaking out of anger, pride, and contention, then we can know that any words we say, (whether labeled as a “swear” word or otherwise) stem from evil in our hearts and are surely not from God.
Jesus explains this in Matthew 12:35:

“A good man out of the good treasure of the heart bringeth forth good things: and an evil man out of the evil treasure bringeth forth evil things”

He then continues with a warning in vs. 36-37:

“But I say unto you, that every idle word that men shall speak, they shall give account thereof in the day of judgment. For by thy words thou shalt be justified, and by thy words thou shalt be condemned.”

Ouch. Is it true we will be condemned by careless words?

Let a resounding “yes” commence, for Jesus could not be any more plain! Now, with this knowledge, is it not true that we ought to pay special attention to each word that escapes our mouth? If we truly believe the words of our Savior, then again the answer is yes! Rather than being careless with our words we ought to be careful each and every time we speak. Hard as it may be, that often means biting our tongue, chicas.

You know the pattern – many of us ladies are guilty of speaking hastily out of frustration, while being sweet as can be when we’re cooled off. Let’s face it, though; being “sweet” does not erase damage caused by words spoken out-of-turn, nor does doing right when it’s easy make it alright to go off the handle when the going gets tough. Consider James 3:10-11:

“Doth a fountain send forth at the same place sweet water and bitter?”

This “fountain” James speaks of is the human heart; the water, our words. It is not practical for liquid to be only “partially” contaminated. A fountain can either be contaminated or safe, but there is no middle ground. It is the same with our hearts. Can we be 90% sweet while 10% bitter? No! 10% bitter is essentially equal to 100% bitter: because the poison has contaminated the whole fountain.

There are many ways in which our hearts (and furthermore, lips) can proclaim evil.

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Maybe we struggle with speaking out of anger. Let us ponder this wisdom of Solomon from Proverbs 14:16-17a:

“A wise man feareth, and departeth from evil: but a fool rageth, and is confident. He that is soon angry dealeth foolishly…”

Sometimes when we are angry the best method is to remove ourselves from the scene momentarily. I have found that often a little distance is just what is needed to look objectively on the frustrating situation at hand. There is no shame in taking a little breather…let us be as the wise man who “departs from evil” lest we “deal foolishly”!
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Perhaps our words have just become downright foolish. Perhaps we have not spent enough time in God’s word and instead of heaping knowledge and understanding to ourselves we have grown dull and complacent, affecting our hearts (and affecting our lips). Let’s hear it from Solomon again in Proverbs 10:13-14 followed by 15:7:

“In the lips of him that hath understanding wisdom is found: but a rod is for the back of him that is void of understanding. Wise men lay up knowledge: but the mouth of the foolish is near destruction.”

“The lips of the wise disperse knowledge: but the heart of the foolish doeth not so.”

Notice the phrase “lay up knowledge”. How do we do this? By dwelling in God’s word of course! We can get out of the rut of foolish speech by adding to ourselves wisdom from the Bible. The result? We will “disperse knowledge”!
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Maybe our problem is that we have pride in our hearts. Remember, our words come from the abundance of our heart, and what is in the heart will eventually come out of the mouth. In Ecclesiastes 10:12-14 we read:

“The words of a wise man’s mouth are gracious; but the lips of a fool will swallow up himself. The beginning of the words of his mouth is foolishness: and the end of his talk is mischevious madness. A fool also is full of words: a man cannot tell what shall be; and what shall be after him, who can tell him?”

Proverbs 14:3

“In the mouth of the foolish is a rod of pride: but the lips of the wise shall preserve them.”

Proverbs 30:32
“If thou hast done foolishly in lifting up thyself, or if thou hast thought evil, lay thine hand upon thy mouth.”

I see a pattern here, do you? The wise man is gracious, and preserves words of boasting, while the foolish man runs off at the mouth, proclaiming his own perceived “greatness”. If we are honest with ourselves, we will realize that ultimately we are small in the presence of God, and we must decrease – He must increase! The blessings we have come from The Lord’s hand. When we are tempted to magnify ourselves, we must stop and take a look at who He is again – and glorify Him!
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Lastly, many of us simply struggle with talking too much, period. Our words don’t necessarily have to be filled with anger, foolishness, or pride…but sometimes we can be foolish simply by speaking unnecessarily.

Proverbs 17:27-28

“He that hath knowledge spareth his words: and a man of understanding is of an excellent spirit. Even a fool, when he holdeth his peace, is counted wise: and he that shutteth his lips is esteemed a man of understanding.”

Proverbs 29:11
“A fool uttereth all his mind: but a wise man keepeth it till afterwards.”

Proverbs 10:19
“In the multitude of words there wanteth not sin: but he that refraineth his lips is wise.”

For some of us, it might be necessary to simply practice being quiet. It is not wise to constantly be speaking, for if we do all the talking, how will we ever hear? If we do not hear, then how will we ever learn? We are not called to never speak, but by the same token we certainly are not wise if we are always speaking. It’s important to find a balance.
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Let us not continue to be plagued with a venomous vernacular. Rather, in the spirit of Philippians 4:8, let us fill our hearts with thoughts of the true, the honest, the just, the pure, the lovely, the reputable, the virtuous, and the praiseworthy. Our mouth will reflect the condition of our regenerated heart, we will be a glory to our Lord, and we will be a blessing to all who hear us.

God bless, and take a chill pill!
Mrs. Dustin Bolks

Mrs. Dustin Bolks is a church of Christ preacher’s wife, and the home educating mother of two children. She and her family currently reside in Northwest Iowa.

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