Destress the Damsel

If you have read my latest article, A Good Name, then you know that today is the day for my name reveal. If you have not yet done so, please visit www.destressthedamsel.com/a-good-name/ to read part I. I believe that it will offer more clarity as to why I finally took the leap to pursue a legal name change as an adult. It’s almost time to share my name with you, if you will allow me just a few more moments of your time to give a brief recap. Why the new name?

For the Jingle. My new name is music to my ears.

For the Journey. My new name is representative of all that I strive to be.

For the Junction. My new name is a precious gift from the one whom my soul loves.

Ready? It is henceforth “ordered, adjudged, and decreed” by the great state of Iowa that I can say the following.

If you have learned anything from Destress the Damsel over the years, I hope you have learned how much I treasure God’s beautiful design for marriage (the headship of husbands, the submission of wives, etc.). One of my greatest desires has been to lead other women to a more perfect understanding of their role in the home. A favorite scripture of mine comes from Titus 2, where we find “the great eight” – the primary directives of Biblical Womanhood. It reads:

The aged women likewise, that they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, to be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed. – Titus 2:3a,4-5

[Note: The Greek word for Chaste, hagnos, is not to be confused with another Greek word commonly translated as Chaste – parthenos. “Parthenos” carries the idea of being virginal and unmarried – certainly not what Paul was referring to in this passage about wives. To be “chaste” according to Titus 2 is to be pure, morally upright, and faithful to one’s own husband]

When my husband revealed that he had finally chosen the perfect name for me, I would have never dreamed in a million years that it would be Chaste. My mission in life is to be a Titus 2 woman…and now my very name is a reminder of all that I hold dear. Possessing a “virtue” name will certainly compel me to live up to all that it signifies. I can by no means attain this alone…but with God as my help, I am ready to meet the task.

Thank you all for your time, and most of all, for your loving support in a matter that means so much to me.

For God’s glory,
Mrs. Dustin Bolks

Chaste Bolks is a church of Christ preacher’s wife, and the home educating mother of two children. She and her family currently reside in Northwest Iowa.