This is your hour – creep upon it! Summon your power, leap upon it! Grasp it, clasp it, hold it tight! Strike it, spike it, with full might! If you take too long to ponder, Opportunity may wander. Yesterday’s a bag of sorrow; No man ever finds Tomorrow. Hesitation is a mire – Climb out, climb up, climb on higher! Fumble, stumble, risk a tumble, Make a start, however humble! Do your best and do it now! Pluck and grit will find out how. Persevere, although you tire – While a spark is left, there’s fire. Distrust doubt; doubt is a liar. Even if all mankind jeer you, You can force the world to cheer you.
“This is Your Hour” by Herbert Kaufman
Today. Today is the most underrated part of life…we long for yesterday and lust for tomorrow, and all the while the time that is now passes away. Friends, this is our hour! “Now” is the only time we have within our grasp.
The quote commonly attributed to Bill Keane may sound cliché, but its wisdom rings true:
“Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery, today is a gift of God, which is why we call it the present.”
Do we treat every “today” as a gift, using each one graciously for the Giver’s intended purpose? Or are we rather, like spoiled children, tossing them aside with no more than an apathetic glance? We’ve all probably seen the scene at one time or another: a greedy child opening presents. Such a child rummages through his packages with lightning speed, furiously ripping off the wrapping paper…he shakes his gift bags upside down and says with an air of impertinence, “Well, is there anything else for me or isn’t there?!” It’s a sad sight to behold, and certainly doesn’t inspire future generosity from his elders.
If immature childhood ingratitude can be so ugly to behold, how much more do you suppose our adulthood ingratitude displeases the Lord? He gives us each day as a gift, and what do we as His greedy children reach for?
The Hypothetical Hereafter.
“Well, is there anything else for me or isn’t there?!” This is our attitude when we reach for another day than the one we’ve been given. Stop shaking that proverbial gift bag, Friends. It’s empty. Today is all we have – in fact, today is all we will ever have. God has set the boundary of time in such a way that it is never yesterday or tomorrow from our frame of reference.
He has made everything appropriate in its time. He has also set eternity in their heart, yet so that man will not find out the work which God has done from the beginning even to the end. – Ecclesiastes 3:11 (NASB)
Let us remember three important truths about our life here on earth…
“Yesterday, all my troubles seemed so far away. Now it looks as though they’re here to stay. Oh, I believe in yesterday”
– excerpt from “Yesterday” by The Beatles
Ironically, part of reaching for The Hypothetical Hereafter includes longing for yesterday. What do I mean by that? Well, when most of us long for the “good old days”, we probably aren’t planning on building a time machine to reverse our life to days of yore. I think what we are really saying, in essence, is that we want tomorrow to be like yesterday. We want to exchange what “was” for what “will be”. We want to create our future by cloning our past. Yet God’s word warns against this line of thinking:
Say not thou, What is the cause that the former days were better than these? for thou dost not enquire wisely concerning this. – Ecclesiastes 7:10
While it is wise to learn from the past, it is not wise to live in the past. Constantly looking back keeps us from moving forward. This is not God’s will for our life, for He is a God of new beginnings:
Remember ye not the former things, neither consider the things of old. Behold, I will do a new thing; now it shall spring forth; shall ye not know it? – Isaiah 43:18-19a
Don’t diminish God’s gift of today by rummaging through yesterday’s trash.
“Tomorrow, tomorrow! I love ya tomorrow! You’re always a day away!”
– excerpt from “Tomorrow”, Annie: The Musical
Why is it so hard to love what we have, but so easy to fall in love with that which we lack? I suppose this is how Satan lures people into adulterous relationships…by making what is tangible and at the fingertips seem dull, while making the mystery of the unknown seem exciting. Yet what happens to those who chase after extra-marital relationships? They are never satisfied, for the new relationship loses its newness, too. Then they are off chasing the next person, and it is a never-ending chase of disappointment. In much the same way, we are never truly satisfied who attempt to chase down The Hypothetical Hereafter. He who is not satisfied with today would not find himself satisfied with tomorrow.
Boast not thyself of tomorrow; for thou knowest not what a day may bring forth. – Proverbs 27:1
Go to now, ye that say, Today or tomorrow we will go into such a city, and continue there a year, and buy and sell, and get gain: Whereas ye know not what shall be on the morrow. For what is your life? It is even a vapour, that appeareth for a little time, and then vanisheth away. For that ye ought to say, If the Lord will, we shall live, and do this, or that. But now ye rejoice in your boastings: all such rejoicing is evil. Therefore to him that knoweth to do good, and doeth it not, to him it is sin. – James 4:13-17
It is so easy to “boast” about the future. We may not use that terminology, but we surely do it often. We talk about how giving we will be…when we have more money. We talk about the work we will accomplish for the Lord…when the kids move out. We talk about what kind people we will be…when that irritable person starts treating us right. You see, who we are is made up of the choices we make every single day…not what we would do if our circumstances were different.
Withhold not good from them to whom it is due, when it is in the power of thine hand to do it. Say not unto thy neighbor, Go, and come again, and tomorrow I will give; when thou hast it by thee. – Proverbs 3:27-28
Don’t diminish God’s gift of today by running to tomorrow’s treasure.
“This is your life, and today is all you’ve got now. And today is all you’ll ever have. Don’t close your eyes. This is your life, are you who you want to be?”
– excerpt from “This is Your Life” by Switchfoot
May each and every one of us please the Giver by using His gift of today to the fullest. Don’t spend all your time looking behind you, nor all your time looking ahead into the distance. Our time is NOW.
Let thine eyes look right on, and let thine eyelids look straight before thee. Ponder the path of thy feet, and let all thy ways be established. – Proverbs 4:25-26
Whatever it is that you need to make a priority in your life, why not make today the day to begin? Maybe it’s reading God’s word regularly, or being warmer to others…maybe it’s investing in a life skill, or being more intentional in your marriage and parenting. Whatever the case may be, don’t say “I did it yesterday”, or “I will do it tomorrow”. Yesterday is dead and gone, and tomorrow may never come. This is your life, are you who you want to be? Are you who God wants you to be?
I must work the works of him that sent me, while it is day: the night cometh, when no man can work. – John 9:4
But exhort one another daily, while it is called Today. – Hebrews 3:13a
In conclusion…
Yesterday: Learn From It. Tomorrow: Look Forward To It. Today: LIVE IN IT!
Let us follow in the footsteps of our Savior, who proclaimed:
…I must walk today, and tomorrow, and the day following: for it cannot be that a prophet perish out of Jerusalem. – Luke 13:33b
For God’s Glory, Mrs. Dustin Bolks
Mrs. Dustin Bolks is a church of Christ preacher’s wife, and the home educating mother of two children. She and her family currently reside in Northwest Iowa.
Well she’s all you’d ever want She’s the kind I like to flaunt and take to dinner But she always knows her place She’s got style, she’s got grace, she’s a winner
She’s a lady Whoa, whoa, whoa, she’s a lady Talkin’ about that little lady And the lady is mine
Well she’s never in the way Always something nice to say, and what a blessin’ I can leave her on her own Knowin’ she’s okay alone and there’s no messin’
She’s a lady Whoa, whoa, whoa, she’s a lady Talkin’ about that little lady And the lady is mine
Well, she never asks very much And I don’t refuse her Always treat her with respect I never would abuse her
What she’s got is hard to find And I don’t want to lose her Help me build a mountain from a little pile of clay, hey hey hey
Well she know’s what I’m about She can take what I dish out, and that’s not easy But she knows me through and through And she knows just what to do and how to please me
She’s a lady Oh, whoa, whoa, whoa, she’s a lady Talkin’ about that little lady And the lady is mine
– From “She’s a Lady” by Paul Anka (made famous by Tom Jones)
I can’t think of a song that more accurately describes the most wonderful lady I’ve ever had the pleasure to know, Virginia Poskevich. If I found out that her husband was the one to have penned the lyrics, I wouldn’t be at all surprised…for nothing says “ladylike” quite like her.
If you’re wondering who “Virginia” is…she is the grandmother I inherited when I said “I do” – my mother-in-law’s mother. She left this earth on July 21, 2019, breaking the hearts of countless souls she has touched who miss her immeasurably. I’m not referring to Grandma in past tense, because as the saying goes, “you can’t kill a Christian, you can only change his address”. She has not ceased to be, and the virtues she has are not gone…they will only continue to grow on into eternity. Her beautiful spirit is alive and well, though she is no longer with us in the flesh. We take comfort knowing that we will see her again, though our tears remind us of the wait.
My father-in-law was among several loved ones who stood up and said a word for Grandma’s honor at her funeral. He turned our thoughts to the Proverbs 31 woman, and noted how closely Grandma represented the prototype. He couldn’t have been more correct. I have to be honest…usually when the Proverbs 31 woman is mentioned, it becomes cliché almost to a fault. So few women truly fit the bill and live up to such a compliment…but Grandma did. It’s true we’d all like to think we are Proverbs 31 material…but let’s look at the opening passage for what it really says:
Who can find a virtuous woman? For her price is far above rubies. – Proverbs 31:10
Did you catch that? Whocan find a virtuous woman?! Such ladies are not found on every corner…they are no dime a dozen. The women truly living God’s way are so desperately hard to find that they are of extraordinary value. I would like to echo my father-in-law’s sentiment that Grandma’s worth was and is indeed far above rubies.
Every woman would be wise to look to Virginia Poskevich as her role model, and I am here to share three good reasons why. Firstly, I believe that the value of Virginia is found…
Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing. – Ephesians 5:22-24
If ever there were a contest for “best wife award” there would be no question of who I would nominate, for Grandma epitomizes the definition of godly submission…a virtue that is most near and dear to my heart.
Allow me to share a bit of history with you. Virginia’s husband, Robert “Bob” Poskevich, stands today as a wonderful Christian man…but it wasn’t always that way. There was a time when Grandma was the only Christian in their home…the first to be converted. For a time, she took their children to church alone…all nine of them. I don’t want to be disrespectful in the least, so suffice it to say only that Grandpa wasn’t always the kindest man, as is of course natural for those who have not yet become saved. Even so, she honored him and submitted herself under his authority with the sweetest of dignity. She didn’t harp on him and demand that he join her at the assembly. She didn’t belittle him to the children, or put him down to others. Instead, she took the approach that such a wife is called to in 1 Peter 3:1-2:
Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives; While they behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear.
If she had taken the easy road, she would have nagged her husband to death…pushing him further and further away from Christ in the meantime. Instead, she focused only on bettering herself and pleasing her man…until eventually his heart could not resist being won over to the Lord.
In all the conversations I have had with Grandma, never did I hear a cross word escape her lips in regards to past or present versions of Grandpa. Every word spoke of deep love and respect. Many women with hard-to-get-along-with husbands love to throw themselves a pity party and invite others to join in. They make their husbands out to be the ever cruel villains, and themselves the hapless victims. If Grandma was like other girls, she could have easily made her husband out to be Bob Poskevich the Zero…but instead she chose to build him up as Bob Poskevich the Hero.
I could name a hundred little things Grandma did that caught my attention…the way she signed her name Mrs. Robert Poskevich instead of Virginia. The fact that she named her first son “Robert Jr.” in honor of her head, “Robert Sr.”. The way she always gave her husband the largest and best looking portions at mealtime. How she always insisted her children obey their father, whether in his presence or not. How she talked to her children about Daddy as if he were the king of a castle, and always encouraged them to find ways to serve him. How she was always such a good sport when her husband teased with her. The fact that she took daily walks with Grandpa in her old age, even when it was difficult physically…just to be near him. I could go on and on, for this doesn’t even scratch the surface of her 65 years of godly submission to her true love. Yes, she indeed is a lady.
The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil. She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life. – Proverbs 31:11-12
Secondly, the value of Virginia is found…
…Whosoever will be great among you, shall be your minister: And whosoever of you will be the chiefest, shall be servant of all. For even the Son of man came not to be ministered unto, but to minister, and to give his life a ransom for many. – Mark 10:43b-45
Second only to her submission as a wife, the next defining trait of Virginia Poskevich is found in her selfless service as a mother. Not only did Grandma raise nine children, but she raised nine children with the tender affections of a good mother cat for her kittens – coupled with the patience of Job! She knew that “a child left to himself bringeth his mother to shame” (Proverbs 29:15), therefore she was attentive and dedicated in actively training her young charges.
Once, my husband and I asked Grandma’s advice on how to help our children to remember the things we had asked them to do. The answer was just as sweet as the lady who gave it…”just take their little face gently in your hands like so (as she takes my husband’s face into her hands) and say clearly and directly what you want them to remember. Then ask them to repeat in their own words so you know they understood”. Grandma’s parenting style was in no way lackadaisical. It is evident that she put in serious amounts of time and effort until she raised up young men and women of good repute.
I said previously how Grandma was diligent to bring her children to church, but her diligence extended past Sundays and Wednesdays alone. My mother-in-law always talks about her Momma’s open bible moving from place to place about the house as she did her daily tasks, stopping to read at intervals. Grandma always has a way of including the Lord in everything she does. She seamlessly adds her spiritual side into every conversation, to the point that it’s impossible to come away from her presence without being called to a higher plane.
She didn’t just talk the talk, but she truly walked the walk of service. Whether it was shopping on a budget, cooking delicious meals, tidying the home, bandaging scrapes and cuts, or having a heart-to-heart talk…she was always there for her kiddos, selflessly serving. Though spoken of widows, she brings to mind the exemplary description found in 1 Timothy 5:9b-10:
…having been the wife of one man, Well reported of for good works; if she have brought up children, if she have lodged strangers, if she have washed the saints’ feet, if she have relieved the afflicted, if she have followed every good work.
Just like the Proverbs 31 woman, she filled her days with productivity for the sake of her family (see vvs. 13-24). Yes, she is indeed a lady.
Lastly, the value of Virginia is found…
But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price. – 1 Peter 3:4
We have spoken of Grandma’s value in relation to her husband and to her children, and now we will consider her behavior to those outside of her most intimate circle. Her serene nature to all is second to none.
Grandma’s voice and the tone she used was sweeter than honey. She spoke slowly and deliberately. She spoke with gentility and clarity. She spoke with great care and kindness. She had a way of making you want to hang on to every word she said.
When others were loud, she was quiet. When others were short-tempered, she was even-keeled. When others were angry, she was calm. She kept her gentle composure, no matter the situation. Always under control.
But I keep under my body, and bring it into subjection: lest that by any means, when I have preached to others, I myself should be a castaway. – 1 Corinthians 9:27
Oh, that more women would have a Virginia spirit! The very definition of femininity, she was…and is. Yes, she is indeed a lady.
She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness. – Proverbs 31:26
In conclusion…
Far above rubies. That is the value of Virginia. Just like the Proverbs 31 woman, Grandma’s value is not found in fame or fortune…but in her submission, in her service, and in her serenity. All for the glory of her God.
My father-in-law said it best:
“If Virginia Poskevich doesn’t fit the Proverbs 31 woman, then I don’t know who does.”
– Verlyn Bolks
Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her. Many daughters have done virtuously, but thou excellest them all. – Proverbs 31:28-29
For God’s Glory, Mrs. Dustin Bolks
Mrs. Dustin Bolks is a church of Christ preacher’s wife, and the home educating mother of two children. She and her family currently reside in Northwest Iowa.
