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You Are What You Eat

06.30.2022 by Chaste Bolks // Leave a Comment

Your diet is not only what you eat. It’s what you watch, what you listen to, what you read, the people you hang around… be mindful of the things you put into your body emotionally, spiritually, and physically.

– @tinybuddha (Twitter User)

You know what they say: you are what you eat! What we take in is ultimately what we become. Just as eating a constant flow of junk food is going to leave you feeling and looking poorly, so also will any constant flow of junk leave its negative mark on the mind. If your thoughts are junky, you are going to be left with junky feelings. If your feelings are junky, you are going to be left with junky behavior. If your behavior is junky, you are going to be left with a junky relationship with God and others. If your relationship with God and others is junky, you are going to be left with a junky life. Junk breeds junk. What you consume eventually consumes you. You are what you eat.

What are you consuming in your daily life? Let’s pretend your noggin is your tummy. Are you nourishing it? Is that noggin being filled with nutritious input that is serving to better your health? Are you filling up on nutrient-dense goodies, or nutrient-deficient garbage? Christian women are called to be sensible. (Titus 2:4) Being “sensible” (Greek = sophron) is to be “sane”, “self-controlled”, and of a “sound mind”. This places a heavy importance on the health and wellness of our thought lives.

Today, we will examine the “eating habits” of a well-nourished mind. I am going to be deriving my outline from “The Latin American Laws of Correct Nutrition” proposed by Dr. Pedro Escudero in 1935. Dr. Escudero’s proposal consists of four laws for healthy eating, which we will use to formulate a healthful “diet” for our minds. Law #1 is…


…which states that the amount of energy the body demands should be the amount consumed.

The amount of food should be sufficient to meet the caloric needs of the body and to maintain caloric balance. Caloric balance means that the amount of calories consumed during the day should be equal to those expended.

Any food regime that accomplishes this law is considered as sufficient. If it does not cover the caloric requirements for balance, it is insufficient, and if the intake exceeds the needs, it is considered excessive.

source: https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0010482515004126#bib4

Physically speaking, we expend some energy each and every day. The amount of energy expended varies, however, and thus our caloric needs vary. (i.e. If you spend all day outdoors digging your garden, your body is going to demand a bigger meal than a day that you spend curled up on the couch with a book). On restful days, a light or even skipped meal might be appropriate. On busy days, a light or skipped meal might be foolhardy. We must take daily workloads into account to ensure a sufficient diet.

Throughout each day, we expend mental energy just as we do physical energy. Some days are stressful and taxing, others are peaceful and light. Our thought lives should reflect the mental energy expended.

  • If you find yourself at odds with your husband, you must remind yourself of your place in the home and your irrevocable love for him. Pray for him. Read a past love letter he wrote for you. Brainstorm on ways you can serve him in a spirit of quiet gentility. The last thing you ought to do is to stew on negative thoughts, which only serve to give Satan a foothold in your marriage. Remember your vows and live them.
  • If you have a stressful day with your kids, you must reinforce positive thoughts towards them in order to replace the mental energy you have exhausted. Pray for them. Watch a past video that makes you giggle. Soften your tone and your words towards them. Let no root of bitterness spring up within you. Remember your duty and fulfill it.
  • If you have been mistreated by a friend, you must soften your heart and choose higher ground. Pray for her. Examine yourself to be sure you are not a root cause of the issue. Either accept her flaws or gracefully bow out of the relationship…forgive her either way. Don’t stoop to low behavior, keep your dignity always intact. Remember your light and show it.

We do not have an endless supply of energy in the noggin any more than we do in the tummy. We must replenish our mental energy with a sufficient amount of healthy input. When you are weary: pray, remember the easy days to get you through the hard ones, and continue to serve others (which has the uncanny ability to fill up a depleted spirit). You are what you eat, so make sure your mind consumes a healthy quantity daily.

Feed me with the food that is my portion… – Proverbs 30:8b

Who then is the faithful and sensible slave whom his master put in charge of his household to give them their food at the proper time? Blessed is that slave whom his master finds so doing when he comes. – Matthew 24:45

Ask yourself: what is the proper quantity for me?

Law # 2 is…


…which states foods from all the food groups should be consumed.

A diet should be complete in composition to provide the body, which is an indivisible unit, with all substances that integrate it. This Law states that ingested food must contain nutrients of each food group.

source: https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0010482515004126#bib4

Physically speaking, a quality body is attained through quality sustenance. Our bodies require a steady flow of vitamins and minerals to work efficiently. The previous nutritional law focused on getting the right amount of food, this law focuses simply on getting the right food. Food that is truly quality must be nutritious.

Every day, we have a choice in what our mind consumes. Will we consume junk food, or incorporate a nourishing diet? What will be the quality of our entertainment, our interactions, and our thought lives? Titus 2:4-5 lays out the God-breathed, quality diet for a woman’s nutritional needs. Consume these 7 “foods” to be one healthy lady:

  • Husband-loving is nutritious to a woman’s spirit. Are you consuming that which will help you to love your husband? (i.e. thinking well of him, bragging on him, desiring him above all others)
  • Children-loving is nutritious to a woman’s spirit. Are you consuming that which will help you to love your children? (i.e. training them, teaching them, patiently disciplining and discipling them)
  • Sensibility is nutritious to a woman’s spirit. Are you consuming that which will help you to be sensible? (i.e. cultivating positive thoughts, rejecting foolish emotions, grounding yourself in truth)
  • Purity is nutritious to a woman’s spirit. Are you consuming that which will help you to be pure? (i.e. reading/watching wholesome content, refraining from the rabbit hole of worldly curiosities, delighting in life’s innocent pleasures)
  • Home-working is nutritious to a woman’s spirit. Are you consuming that which will help you to work at home? (i.e. stretching your husband’s paycheck, denying any tendency toward laziness, honing your womanly skills)
  • Kindness is nutritious to a woman’s spirit. Are you consuming that which will help you to be kind? (i.e. speaking in gentle tones, considering others better than yourself, exhibiting a calm composure to those who treat you with contempt)
  • Husband-subjecting is nutritious to a woman’s spirit. Are you consuming that which will help you to subject to your husband? (i.e. learning what pleases him, adapting to him, deferring to him in all things?)

The books you read, the shows you watch, the music you listen to, the social media you scroll, the thoughts you think, the friends you count…all of these are shaping your mind to either become better or worse in these 7 characteristics. If that book, show, music, social media, thought, friend, etc. is not helping you to love your husband and children, to be sensible, pure, and kind, to work at home, and to subject yourself to your husband? Then it’s not healthy for you…it needs to go. You are what you eat, so make sure your mind consumes a healthy quality daily.

The good man out of the good treasure of his heart brings forth what is good; and the evil man out of the evil treasure brings forth what is evil; for his mouth speaks from that which fills his heart. – Luke 6:45

For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also. – Luke 12:34

Ask yourself: what is the proper quality for me?

Law # 3 is…


…which highlights the need to keep a proper relation between the distributions of ingested nutrients.

The amounts of the various nutritional principles that integrate diet must maintain a relation of proportions between themselves. … Recommended intakes of the amounts of macronutrients may vary depending on the country or the approach followed by nutrition scientists, so the following distribution is proposed: 50-70% carbohydrates, 10-20% proteins, and 20-35% fats.

Any diet that fulfills this Law is considered harmonic or, more commonly, balanced. If the nutritional principles do not keep this proportionality, it is a disharmonic or unbalanced diet.

source: https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0010482515004126#bib4

Physically speaking, we ought to consume a balanced variety of healthful foods each day. Too much of one food group and too little of another leads to nutritional deficiency. The previous nutritional laws focused on getting the right amount of food and the right food. This law focuses on getting the right combination of food.

Putting all our eggs in one basket (pardon the food pun) disadvantages the body and the mind alike. For example, carrots and bananas are both healthful food choices, but pursuing a diet of only carrots or only bananas is unbalanced and will leave you lacking in many of the vitamins and minerals your body needs. We want a harmonious diet for our bodies, and so too do we want a harmonious diet for our minds.

  • Reading your Bible is a good thing. However, if you are so consumed with your Bible reading that you neglect to serve others, you have become unbalanced. Read your Bible, but not to the neglect of service.
  • Playing with your children is a good thing. However, if you are so consumed with playing with your children that you neglect your marriage, you have become unbalanced. Play with your children, but not to the neglect of your husband.
  • Cleaning your house is a good thing. However, if you are so consumed with your housework that you neglect family time, you have become unbalanced. Clean your house, but not to the neglect of your loved ones.

A moderate lifestyle is key to a joyful existence. Fill your mind with a variety of healthy input; not too much of one thing and not too little of another. Keep your brain firing on all cylinders – learn how to love God and your husband more perfectly, learn how to be a better parent, learn to improve your homemaking skills – keep all of your duties in balance for a healthy, harmonious mind. You are what you eat, so make sure your mind consumes a healthy harmony daily.

Have you found honey? Eat only what you need, that you not have it in excess and vomit it. – Proverbs 25:16

Finally, brethren, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is of good repute, if there is any excellence and if anything worthy of praise, dwell on these things. – Philippians 4:8

Ask yourself: what is the proper harmony for me?

Law #4 is…


…which insists on adapting diet to the nutritional, social, and psychological needs of individuals.

The purpose of a diet depends on the needs of a particular user. The Law of Adequacy states that the ingested nutrients should be appropriate to the age, physical activity and physiological state of the individual.

When a diet meets these requirements, it is said to be adequate. When it is not fulfilled, the diet regimen is inadequate and unsuitable.

source: https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0010482515004126#bib4

Physically speaking, a heavy, inactive, older individual and a lighter, active, younger individual should not be eating the same amount of food every day (as a general rule). It’s to the detriment of our society’s health that many eat to their heart’s content with no consideration of what is truly needful for them. A severe lack of self-control has led to an obesity epidemic, and those who are fit and eat modestly are becoming quite a rare sight. (On the other extreme, there are those who struggle with anorexia, or not eating enough food to meet their nutritional needs. However, one public outing in today’s world will reveal that obesity is the extreme far more common than that of anorexia.) Neither extreme is good.

Our minds should be neither starving for input, nor drunken on input. The anorexic mind and the obese mind are both unsightly and reveal an underlying health problem. We should seek to have an adequate diet for our mind; taking our own personal life reality into account.

  • A single woman would do well to invest some time into learning about how to be a loving, obedient wife (if marriage is on her agenda). To invest little to no time into learning about marriage is neglectful, for she will find herself unprepared and unequal to the task of being a wife should she become married. To invest the majority of her time into learning about marriage is obsessive, for she is not cultivating herself in other ways should a suitor never come calling for her.
  • A married woman would do well to invest some time into learning about how to be a caring, nurturing mother (if motherhood is on her agenda). To invest little to no time into learning about parenting is neglectful, for she will find herself unprepared and unequal to the task of being a mother should she become pregnant/adopt. To invest the majority of her time into learning about parenting is obsessive, for she is not cultivating herself in other ways should a cradle never be filled for her.

Godliness with contentment is great gain. Don’t reach for more or less than what is fit for your present station in life. Don’t starve yourself of knowledge, but don’t glut out on it either. Your unique needs and lifestyle may not look just like someone else’s, and that’s okay. You are what you eat, so make sure your mind consumes a healthy adequacy daily.

I gave you milk to drink, not solid food; for you were not yet able to receive it. – 1 Corinthians 1:2

O Lord, my heart is not proud, nor my eyes haughty; nor do I involve myself in great matters, or in things too difficult for me. – Psalms 131:1

Ask yourself: what is the proper adequacy for me?


In conclusion…

Are you nourishing your noggin with “food” that is the proper quantity, quality, harmony, and adequacy? Healthy food is essential to a healthy body. Likewise, healthy input is essential to a healthy mind. Your books, your shows, your music, your social media, your thoughts, your relationships…everything you allow into your mind is shaping you for better or for worse.

The food you eat can be either the safest and most powerful form of medicine or the slowest form of poison.

– Ann Wigmore

What you consume eventually consumes you. I exhort you to choose food that is good for you, because you are what you eat.

For God’s glory,
Mrs. Dustin Bolks


Chaste Bolks is a church of Christ preacher’s wife, and the home educating mother of two children. She and her family currently reside in Northwest Iowa.

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Home Is Where the Start Is

05.31.2022 by Chaste Bolks // Leave a Comment

“20 Great Reasons You Homeschool” by Jim Erskine

  1. The only “gang” your kids belong to is your family.
  2. The teacher-pupil ratio is great.
  3. You don’t need security guards or metal detectors.
  4. Your kids enjoy socializing with people of all ages.
  5. You don’t have to run to catch the school bus.
  6. You can sleep in on rainy days.
  7. School prayer is encouraged.
  8. You don’t have to buy “back-to-school” clothes.
  9. You don’t have to develop a taste for cafeteria food.
  10. You can celebrate your birthday with a school holiday.
  11. Vacations can be called “extended field trips”.
  12. You get to read more books than you ever realized existed.
  13. The latest fads usually never make it to your house.
  14. You don’t have to worry about what your kids learned in school today.
  15. You don’t have to raise your hand to go to the bathroom.
  16. You can wear pajamas to class and not be kicked out.
  17. Chores may be called “home ec. projects”.
  18. There’s always time to bake cookies.
  19. Learning becomes contagious.
  20. Your family is right where they ought to be…home!

Some of these “20 great reasons you homeschool” are petty and silly, some of them pertinent and serious. If you home educate your children, chances are that a few of them resonate with you. My personal favorites are #’s 1, 2, 7, 12, 13, 14, and, of course…20!

My husband and I have been home educating our children since preschool, and our oldest will be in his freshman year this Autumn. His younger brother is trailing close behind him as he moves into 8th grade. Though homeschooling has never been exactly what you’d call a stress-free experience in the Bolks home (we are raising energetic boys, after all); it has been a privilege to keep our family close together over the years. If we had it to do over again, we would stand resolved in our decision to teach our children at home. For us, home is where the start is.

I realize that home education is not a plausible option for every household (i.e. homes where a parent is single/widowed, etc.), but for those who have opportunity to homeschool, I exhort you to not dismiss the idea. As parents, we have a relatively short 18 years that our child is under our direct sphere of influence. These years are vital for instilling values that will stick with that child for all of his/her days. While, in their free will, a child may ultimately reject what they have been taught, they will have a foundation that continues speaking to their conscience all through life…whether to confirm or to condemn.

Today, I want to share with you the two main reasons why we are convicted that home education is best for our family. Perhaps you will take a second glance at homeschooling and consider what is best for yours. We believe in home education because we believe in…


Home education is no new invention. In fact, it’s been around since the beginning (that is, if the Garden of Eden counts as a “home” school! Or would that be called “garden-schooling”?) Kidding aside, countless students through the ages have emerged from home education with great success…

  • Of the first 32 presidents, 17 were homeschooled. These include such great men as George Washington, Thomas Jefferson, James Madison, Abraham Lincoln, and Theodore Roosevelt.
  • A myriad of scientists and inventors were homeschooled. Thomas Edison, Alexander Graham Bell, Orville & Wilbur Wright, and George Washington Carver all got their start in life behind the four walls of their parents’ homes.
  • Many famous authors received a home education. C.S. Lewis, Charles Dickens, Laura Ingalls Wilder, Louisa May Alcott, and Hans Christian Anderson are a few that only scratch the surface.

Some balk at home education, because they are under the impression that homeschoolers are weird, antisocial, and backward. Are there some homeschool students that exude these negative qualities? Certainly! The truth is, I have observed weird, antisocial, and backward children in public, private, and home schools. There are people with a variety of personalities in every type of school. One’s characteristics (positive or negative) speak far more to their individual personality than it does to their mode of education.

We would be remiss to lump all homeschoolers into a negative category on account of “that one kid” we know! We can clearly find many examples of successful, friendly, well-rounded homeschooled individuals from the famous people I highlighted above (not to mention the countless praiseworthy students I have encountered firsthand). Parents teaching and raising their own children is a time-tested and worthy pursuit.

Hear, O Israel! The LORD is our God, the LORD is one! You shall love the LORD your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your might. These words, which I am commanding you today, shall be on your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your sons and shall talk of them when you sit in your house and when you walk by the way and when you lie down and when you rise up. – Deuteronomy 6:4-7

Home education has long been tried. For us, home is where the start is.

There is no school equal to a decent home and no teacher equal to a virtuous parent.

– Gandhi

We believe in home education because we believe in…


Home education (as a general rule) protects children from the lies that are prevalent in the modern public school system and society as a whole.

  • My children are not being taught the lie of evolution from the public school system. As a homeschool mom, I have the freedom to teach my children the truth that God ”brings forth living creatures after their kind“, and that ”God created man in his own image”. (see Genesis 1:24-27)
  • My children are not being taught the lie of transgenderism from the public school system. As a homeschool mom, I have the freedom to teach my children the truth that “He who created them from the beginning made them male and female”. (see Matthew 19:4)
  • My children are not being taught the lie of critical race theory from the public school system. As a homeschool mom, I have the freedom to teach my children the truth that there are ”devout men from every nation under heaven”. (see Acts 2:5)

I have a duty to teach my children about these topics from a Biblical perspective. How could I turn a blind eye and allow them to have misinformation presented before them as truth for hours on end over a span of 13 years? That would not only be irresponsible, but furthermore, wrong.

See to it that no one takes you captive through philosophy and empty deception, according to the tradition of men, according to the elementary principles of the world, rather than according to Christ. – Colossians 2:8

In an age where truth is in short supply, I am more convinced than ever that the godless “establishment” is the last place I want my children to be. I want their minds to be transformed by God’s word, not by the liberal agenda of today’s public school system.

But evil men and impostors will proceed from bad to worse, deceiving and being deceived. You, however, continue in the things you have learned and become convinced of, knowing from whom you have learned them, and that from childhood you have known the sacred writings which are able to give you the wisdom that leads to salvation through faith which is in Christ Jesus.- 2 Timothy 3:13-15

In addition to protecting our children from the liberal indoctrination of modern curriculum, we are protecting them from:

  • Peer pressure by worldly youth
  • Perverse sexual education
  • Inoculation against their will
  • Inappropriate library materials on LGBTQ+, masturbation, etc.
  • Teachers who encourage withholding of information from parents
  • Child predators
  • School shootings

…and the list goes on. In the last few months alone, children in countless schools across America have been dealing with these issues. I urge you to find out for yourself what is going on behind the scenes while Father and Mother work and the government’s school system raises the children. It is truly frightening, and I’m afraid it’s not getting any better. Children need brave parents who are willing to do what it takes to make sure their kids are learning truth in a safe environment.

Home education has long been true. For us, home is where the start is.

To educate a man in mind and not in morals is to educate a menace to society.

– Theodore Roosevelt

In conclusion…

We believe in home education because it is tried and true.

I implore you to do all in your power to guard the children that God has entrusted you with. Godly offspring are our only hope for the future of this nation and the world. We need Christian soldiers who value truth, freedom, and liberty. I have seen countless youth emerge from the modern-day public school system believing lies, their love of Christ snuffed out, just another brick in the worldly wall. Don’t let this be your child. If you are able, parents, get those kids out of the world system and into God’s system. Home is where the start is.

I am as sure as I am of Christ’s reign that a comprehensive and centralized system of national education, separated from religion, as is now commonly proposed, will prove the most appalling enginery for the propagation of anti-Christian and atheistic unbelief, and of anti-social nihilistic ethics, individual, social and political, which this sin-rent world has ever seen.

– A.A. Hodge

On the flip side…

Education is a better safeguard of liberty than a standing army.

– Edward Everett

For God’s glory,
Mrs. Dustin Bolks


Chaste Bolks is a church of Christ preacher’s wife, and the home educating mother of two children. She and her family currently reside in Northwest Iowa.

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The Fear of a Father

04.30.2022 by Chaste Bolks // Leave a Comment

I know how father’s strap would feel,
If ever I were caught,
So mother’s jam I did not steal,
Though theft was in my thought.
Then turned fourteen and full of pitch,
Of love I was afraid,
And did not dare to dally with

Our pretty parlour maid.

And so it is and always was,
The path of rectitude
I’ve followed all my life because
The Parson said I should
The dread of hell-fire held me straight
When I was wont to stray,
And though my guts I often hate,
I walk the narrow way.


I might have been a bandit or
A Casanovish blade,
But always I have prospered for
I’ve always been afraid;
Ay, fear’s behind the best of us
And schools us for success,
And that is why I’m virtuous,
And happy – more or less.


So let me hail that mighty power
That goads me to be good,
And makes me cannily to cower
Amid foolhardihood;
Though I be criminal in gain,
My virtue a veneer,
I thank the God who keeps me sane,
And shields me from distress and pain,
And thrifts me on to golden gain,
Almighty Fear.

– “Fear” by Robert William Service

Fear, I’m afraid, is an unsung hero in the 21st century. But why? Fear is the virtue that safeguards against all vices. Fear is the virtue that constrains one to the straight and narrow path. Fear is the virtue that keeps one from making and meeting their own demise. Fear is the virtue.

The world hates fear. Why? Because fear would: a) imply that there is something/Someone bigger than us that we must subject ourselves to, b) imply that we cannot simply live however we please, and c) imply that we will reap the consequences of unrepentant behavior.

Some Christians water down fear. Why? Because they mistakenly believe that: a) fear is just another word for “admiration”, b) fear equals weak faith, and c) fear will cause the unbeliever to recoil from conversion.

I share Robert William Service’s attitude toward fear…I believe that it is meant to be a positive, healthy motivator in the life of a Christian. In Mr. Service’s poem, the fear of a father propelled one young man to fear his heavenly Father when he came of age. The young man grew to applaud this fear that prohibited him from giving in to sinful desires, allowing him to make right choices instead. I am convinced that The Fear of a Father should likewise be present with each of us.

“What exactly does this fear of a father look like?” you may be asking. I will propose that fearing the Lord is a two-sided coin. One side of that coin is…


God is spirit, and those who worship Him must worship in spirit and truth. – John 4:24 (emphasis added)

God’s truth incites my reverence. Reverence is defined as: (1) A feeling or attitude of deep respect tinged with awe; veneration. (2) The outward manifestation of this feeling. (3) A gesture indicative of deep respect; an obeisance, bow, or curtsy.

To fear God with my reverence is to acknowledge Who is boss, to bow my knee before Him, and to wholly subdue myself to His authority. To fear God is to be grounded in and obedient to His truth: the truth. It is a common occurrence to hear of “your” truth or “my” truth in today’s vernacular…but be warned, such speech is idolatrous. If “your” truth or “my” truth is not God’s truth, then this so-called “truth” is not truth at all. There is only one truth – the sum of God’s word – and we must revere it or we are none of His. Let’s learn the value of reverence through the 5 W’s:

1. Who do we reverence in fear?

I say to you, my friends, do not be afraid of those who kill the body and after that have no more that they can do. But I will warn you whom to fear: fear the One who, after he has killed, has authority to cast into hell; yes, I tell you, fear Him! – Luke 12:4-5

2. What is reverence in fear?

The fear of the Lord is to hate evil; pride and arrogance and the evil way and the perverted mouth, I hate. – Proverbs 8:13

3. When do we reverence in fear?

If you address as Father the One who impartially judges according to each one’s work, conduct yourselves in fear during the time of your stay on earth… – 1 Peter 1:17

4. Where do we reverence in fear?

Let all the earth fear the Lord; let all the inhabitants of the world stand in awe of Him. – Psalm 33:8

5. Why do we reverence in fear?

...by the fear of the Lord one keeps away from evil. – Proverbs 16:6b

Reverence requires us to (1) fear God and (2) hate evil (3) all our life (4) on earth (5) to keep away from said evil. Reverence saves one from oneself. It is blessed security. Let’s not water down fear, but rather embrace it for the gift of protection that it is.

Now remember, the fear of the Lord is a two-sided coin. Fear involves my reverence, yet it also includes…


God is spirit, and those who worship Him must worship in spirit and truth. – John 4:24 (emphasis added)

God’s spirit inspires my reverie. Reverie is defined as: (1) A state of dreamy meditation or fanciful musing. (2) A daydream. (3) A fantastic, visionary, or impractical idea.

To fear God is to be linked in spirit to a heavenly dimension, even while our body remains linked to this earthly dimension. To fear God is to be largely unaffected by negative and unpleasant surroundings, for our head is always “in the clouds”, as it were. I am not implying oblivion, but rather a form of lucid dreaming. We are to be awake and aware in this world, while simultaneously keeping our eye on that “dreamworld” beyond. Let’s learn the value of reverie through the 5 W’s:

1. Who finds reverie in fear?

The secret of the Lord is for those who fear Him, and He will make them know His covenant. – Psalms 25:14

2. What is reverie in fear?

In the fear of the Lord there is strong confidence, and his children will have refuge. – Proverbs 14:26

3. When do we find reverie in fear?

If you seek her [wisdom] as silver and search for her as for hidden treasures; then you will discern the fear of the Lord and discover the knowledge of God. – Proverbs 2:4-5 (context clarification added)

4. Where is there reverie in fear?

…I most certainly understand now that God is not one to show partiality, but in every nation the man who fears Him and does what is right is welcome to Him. – Acts 10:34b-35

5. Why is there reverie in fear?

The fear of the Lord leads to life, so that one may sleep satisfied, untouched by evil. – Proverbs 19:23

Reverie allows us to (1) access God’s secret place (2) with strong confidence (3) when we seek His wisdom (4) in any and every nation (5) leading to life, peace, and refuge. Reverie is having a mind set on things above. It is seeing the bigger picture amidst a chaotic world. Ironically, the fear of God makes us quite unafraid of all else. Those who sow seeds of reverence will reap blooms of reverie.


In conclusion…

Fearing the Lord is a two-sided coin. We must worship our God in spirit (reverie) and in truth (reverence). Those who embrace both will come to echo Mr. Service’s sentiments:

“I thank the God who keeps me sane,
And shields me from distress and pain,
And thrifts me on to golden gain,
Almighty Fear.
“

The bravest souls are those who choose to live by The Fear of a Father.

The conclusion, when all has been heard, is: fear God and keep His commandments, because this applies to every person. – Ecclesiastes 12:13

For God’s glory,
Mrs. Dustin Bolks


Chaste Bolks is a church of Christ preacher’s wife, and the home educating mother of two children. She and her family currently reside in Northwest Iowa.

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