Contention Isn’t Cute

Has your husband grown cold and distant towards you? Are you in a perpetual state of unhappiness? Do your kids know “If Mama aint happy, aint nobody happy”? If this sounds like your home life…you just may be the contentious wife.

5 verses on the contentious wife:

A continual dropping in a very rainy day and a contentious woman are alike. (Proverbs 27:15 KJV)

A foolish son is the calamity of his father: and the contentions of a wife are a continual dropping. (Proverbs 19:13 KJV)


It is better to dwell in a corner of the housetop, than with a brawling woman in a wide house. (Proverbs 21:9 and Proverbs 25:24 say this same thing)


It is better to dwell in the wilderness, than with a contentious and an angry woman. (Proverbs 21:19)

The theme here is apparent: No husband wants to be in the company of a contentious wife! 

It starts out with the wife nagging: the obnoxious, continual dripping of the faucet.This leads the husband to seek refuge to another room in the house. After a while, her nagging can lead to him finding solace outside the home: “The wilderness”! Let us make our homes a joyful place to live….may my husband never wish to head to the wilderness because I have made our home miserable to him.

We wives must remember our proper place in the home, and adjust our behavior accordingly. Compare the contentious wife to the submissive wife:

The contentious wife finds ways to make light of her husband’s weaknesses and belittle his talents – whether in the public eye or at home…..the submissive wife knows this is not honorable.

A virtuous woman is a crown to her husband: but she that maketh ashamed is as rottenness in his bones. (Proverbs 12:4 KJV)

The contentious wife complains about lack of funds/special treatment/material items….but the submissive wife remembers that her treasure is in heaven.

But lay up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where neither moth nor rust doth corrupt, and where thieves do not break through nor steal: (Matthew 6:20 KJV)

The contentious wife will yell, swear, criticize, whine, or roll her eyes at her husband when angered….while the submissive wife treats her husband as her Lord.

Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. (Ephesians 5:22 KJV)

A contentious wife goes against her husbands wishes if she disagrees with him….but the submissive wife knows that if she disobeys her husband, she blasphemes the word of God!

To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed. (Titus 2:5 KJV)

A contentious wife denies her husband of sex, whether out of spite or because she is disinterested….a submissive wife knows that her body belongs to her man, and is his own flesh.

The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife. (1 Corinthians 7:4 KJV)

So how are we measuring up? Are we being the submissive, peaceable wives the Lord calls us to be? Or are Christian women evolving into women of the world, who disrespect their husbands vehemenently? It’s time to stop the contention, and treat our husbands with HONOR!

Contention isn’t cute, Girls. Be a Titus 2 kinda wife.

Your husband will be happier. You will be happier. Your kids will be happier. The world will see what a christian marriage should look like. Most importantly, God will be glorified.

And when it’s all over at the end of the day, your husband can say in all truth:

Thou art all fair, my love; there is no spot in thee. (Song of Solomon 4:7 KJV)

God bless, and take a chill pill!
CA Bolks